--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or…" description: "\"We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or loneliness is going to last forever... Instead, acting it out is what makes it last.\" — Pema Chodron" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/162/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acting_we-re-afraid-that-this-anger-or-sorrow-o_1458260.png" --- # We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or loneliness is… ![“We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or loneliness is going to last forever... Instead, acting it out is what makes it last.” quote by Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/162/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acting_we-re-afraid-that-this-anger-or-sorrow-o_1458260.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/162/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acting_we-re-afraid-that-this-anger-or-sorrow-o_1458260.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/162/pema-ch-dr-n-327_acting_we-re-afraid-that-this-anger-or-sorrow-o_1458260.png) > “We're afraid that this anger or sorrow or loneliness is going to last forever... Instead, acting it out is what makes it last.” [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Suppressing painful emotions makes them linger; expressing them helps them dissolve. **In simple terms:** Feeling and release emotions prevents them from lasting. Key Takeaway Express emotions to let them go. Themes emotion expression healing mindfulness Mood reflective calm Type advice inspirational When to use this quote - therapy sessions - personal journaling - conflict resolution - stress management Key Concepts psychology Buddhist practice emotional regulation Questions to Reflect On - How do you safely express difficult feelings? - What outlets help you release sorrow? 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