--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: The real thing that we renounce is the…" description: "\"The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.\" — Pema Chodron" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0d0/pema-ch-dr-n-327_hope_the-real-thing-that-we-renounce-is-the-t_343224.png" --- # The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that… ![“The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.” quote by Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0d0/pema-ch-dr-n-327_hope_the-real-thing-that-we-renounce-is-the-t_343224.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0d0/pema-ch-dr-n-327_hope_the-real-thing-that-we-renounce-is-the-t_343224.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/0d0/pema-ch-dr-n-327_hope_the-real-thing-that-we-renounce-is-the-t_343224.png) > “The real thing that we renounce is the tenacious hope that we could be saved from being who we are.” [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. We deny the hope that we can escape our inherent nature, clinging to false expectations of transformation. **In simple terms:** We resist accepting ourselves as we are. Key Takeaway Practice radical acceptance of self. Themes acceptance self‑compassion authenticity Mood calm inspirational Type philosophical motivational When to use this quote - self‑help - therapy - spiritual practice - daily mindfulness Key Concepts Buddhist philosophy psychology Questions to Reflect On - How does resisting change affect you? - What does authentic self‑acceptance look like? 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