--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Resistance to unwanted circumstances has…" description: "\"Resistance to unwanted circumstances has the power to keep those circumstances alive and well for a very long time.\" — Pema Chodron" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/105/pema-ch-dr-n-327_alive_resistance-to-unwanted-circumstances-has_219686.png" --- # Resistance to unwanted circumstances has the power to keep… ![“Resistance to unwanted circumstances has the power to keep those circumstances alive and well for a very long time.” quote by Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/105/pema-ch-dr-n-327_alive_resistance-to-unwanted-circumstances-has_219686.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/105/pema-ch-dr-n-327_alive_resistance-to-unwanted-circumstances-has_219686.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/105/pema-ch-dr-n-327_alive_resistance-to-unwanted-circumstances-has_219686.png) > “Resistance to unwanted circumstances has the power to keep those circumstances alive and well for a very long time.” [Pema Chodron](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/pema-ch-dr-n/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Avoiding discomfort sustains the very problems we fear, because we never confront or release them. **In simple terms:** Avoiding pain keeps problems alive. Key Takeaway Face discomfort to dissolve it. Themes acceptance mindfulness resilience Mood reflective calm Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - relationship conflicts - health issues - career stagnation - personal habits Key Concepts attachment avoidance psychological inertia Questions to Reflect On - What discomfort are you avoiding? - How might facing it change the situation? 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