--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I think it has changed things for me and…" description: "\"“I think it has changed things for me and Jemma. I’d be blind not to admit that it’s changed her—that I’ve let that happen, I mean. It’s weird because ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/811/paula-kay-69614_material-wealth_i-think-it-has-changed-things-for-me-and_264387.jpg" --- # I think it has changed things for me and Jemma. I’d be… ![“I think it has changed things for me and Jemma. I’d be blind not to admit that it’s changed her—that I’ve let that happen, I mean. It’s weird because even when I see myself doing it—spoiling her—I know that it’s not good. But it’s hard to not want to give her all of the things that I never could…” quote by Paula Kay](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/811/paula-kay-69614_material-wealth_i-think-it-has-changed-things-for-me-and_264387.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/811/paula-kay-69614_material-wealth_i-think-it-has-changed-things-for-me-and_264387.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/811/paula-kay-69614_material-wealth_i-think-it-has-changed-things-for-me-and_264387.jpg) > ““I think it has changed things for me and Jemma. I’d be blind not to admit that it’s changed her—that I’ve let that happen, I mean. It’s weird because even when I see myself doing it—spoiling her—I know that it’s not good. But it’s hard to not want to give her all of the things that I never could before. Things that I never had myself, growing up. Does that make sense?”  Gigi looked at Blu carefully before she spoke. “I do understand it. Yes. But I also think that Jemma is going to have some problems—or maybe not problems exactly, but she is acting a bit spoiled for sure, if I’m being honest.” “You can always be honest with me.” Blu smiled, grasping her friend’s hand in her own. “I know that you only want the best for Jemma. You’ve always just wanted the best for both of us. And I appreciate that so much.” “Well, I suppose that Jemma is not really much different from Ari when she was her age. I mean, I loved that child, but she would have been called spoiled by anyone.” Gigi laughed, thinking of the tantrums that the young Arianna used to have when she didn’t get something that she wanted. Yes, she had turned out okay—in the end. But then again, how would she have been without the accident—without her own illness and being faced with her death. She’d been forced to look at her life differently, to realize that many more things had mattered to her than the material wealth she’d grown up with.  “Yes, you do have a point about”” Paula Kay ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A person reflects on how a traumatic event reshapes priorities, leading to overcompensation and fear of repeating past neglect. **In simple terms:** Trauma changes behavior, sometimes causing overindulgence. Key Takeaway Balance caring with healthy boundaries. Themes family growth trauma overcompensation Mood reflective empathetic Type advice conversational When to use this quote - parenting - friend support - personal healing Key Concepts psychology attachment grief Questions to Reflect On - How can you support without creating dependency? - What boundaries protect both parties? 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