--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: The man who had abused him would ask, ”I…" description: "\"“The man who had abused him would ask, ”I abused you yesterday, why did you not reply yesterday? You are very strange.” No one waits for a second when ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/061/osho-519_anger-management_the-man-who-had-abused-him-would-ask-i-a_1480698.jpg" --- # The man who had abused him would ask, ”I abused you… ![“The man who had abused him would ask, ”I abused you yesterday, why did you not reply yesterday? You are very strange.” No one waits for a second when you abuse him. He retorts immediately.” Junnaid answered, ”My master taught me not to hurry in anything. Take some time. I must wait a little when…” quote by Osho](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/061/osho-519_anger-management_the-man-who-had-abused-him-would-ask-i-a_1480698.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/061/osho-519_anger-management_the-man-who-had-abused-him-would-ask-i-a_1480698.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/061/osho-519_anger-management_the-man-who-had-abused-him-would-ask-i-a_1480698.jpg) > ““The man who had abused him would ask, ”I abused you yesterday, why did you not reply yesterday? You are very strange.” No one waits for a second when you abuse him. He retorts immediately.” Junnaid answered, ”My master taught me not to hurry in anything. Take some time. I must wait a little when someone insults me. If I were to give an immediate answer, the heat of the happening would catch hold of me; the smoke would blind my eyes. So I have to wait and let the cloud pass. When twenty-four hours have passed and the skies are clear again, then I can give my reply in full consciousness. Now I realize how tricky my guru was. Because I have never been able to answer my opponents since then.” Is it possible to hold on to anger for twenty-four hours? It is impossible to maintain it for twenty-four minutes or even twenty-four seconds. The truth is that, even if you hold back and watch for a single second, the anger vanishes. But you do not wait even for a moment. A person abuses you – as if someone switches the button, and the fan starts whirring. There is not the slightest gap between the two, no distance! And you pride yourself in your alertness! You have no control of yourself. How can an unconscious person be master of himself? Anybody can push the button and goad him into action. Someone comes and flatters you, and you are filled with joy; you are happy. Someone insults you, you are full of tears. Are you your own master or anyone can manipulate you? You are the slave of slaves. And those who are manipulating are not their own masters either! And the irony is that everyone is expert in manipulating others and none of them is conscious. What greater insult can there be for your soul than the fact that anyone can affect you?”” [Osho](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/osho/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Patience transforms reactive anger into reflective calm; waiting allows clarity and prevents impulsive retaliation. **In simple terms:** Waiting cools anger and restores control. Key Takeaway Practice delayed response to conflict. Themes self‑control patience anger management Mood reflective calm Type spiritual psychological When to use this quote - conflict resolution - personal growth - stressful encounters Key Concepts mindfulness emotional regulation spiritual discipline Questions to Reflect On - How long can you pause before reacting? - What benefits arise from delayed replies? A Different Perspective Patience may be difficult in high‑stakes situations. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Anger management](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/anger-management/) ## Related quotes > [“Start with very small experiments. When anger arises, stop! What is the hurry? When you feel hatred, wait! There should be some interval. Reply…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/osho/start-with-very-small-experiments-when-anger-arises-stop-what-is-the/) [Osho](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/osho/) > [“you feel what else is there to do in life apart from living? 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