--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: To fall for,\" \"to be fallen for\"--I feel…" description: "\"To fall for,\" \"to be fallen for\"--I feel in these words something unspeakably vulgar, farcical, and at the same time extraordinarily complacent. Once t..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/307/osamu-dazai-2813_appearance_to-fall-for-to-be-fallen-for-i-feel-in-t_2289662.jpg" --- # To fall for," "to be fallen for"--I feel in these words… ![“To fall for," "to be fallen for"--I feel in these words something unspeakably vulgar, farcical, and at the same time extraordinarily complacent. Once these expressions put in an appearance, no matter how solemn the place, the silent cathedrals of melancholy crumble, leaving nothing but an…” quote by Osamu Dazai](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/307/osamu-dazai-2813_appearance_to-fall-for-to-be-fallen-for-i-feel-in-t_2289662.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/307/osamu-dazai-2813_appearance_to-fall-for-to-be-fallen-for-i-feel-in-t_2289662.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/307/osamu-dazai-2813_appearance_to-fall-for-to-be-fallen-for-i-feel-in-t_2289662.jpg) > “To fall for," "to be fallen for"--I feel in these words something unspeakably vulgar, farcical, and at the same time extraordinarily complacent. Once these expressions put in an appearance, no matter how solemn the place, the silent cathedrals of melancholy crumble, leaving nothing but an impression of fatuousness. It is curious, but the cathedrals of melancholy are not necessarily demolished if one can replace the vulgar "What a messy business it is to be fallen for" by the more literary "What uneasiness lies in being loved.” [Osamu Dazai](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/osamu-dazai/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The language we use to describe love can make it feel vulgar or profound, shaping our emotional experience. **In simple terms:** Words shape how we feel about love. Key Takeaway Choose language that honors emotions. Themes love language perception vulnerability Mood melancholic introspective Type literary philosophical When to use this quote - writing - therapy - relationship counseling - personal reflection Key Concepts semantics emotional framing literary expression Questions to Reflect On - What words do you use for love? - How does language affect your emotional reality? 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