--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Training is needed in order to love…" description: "\"Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice DEEP LOOKING directed toward the other person..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d3/nhat-hanh-515_able_training-is-needed-in-order-to-love-prop_2307304.png" --- # Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be… ![“Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice DEEP LOOKING directed toward the other person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly. Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand…” quote by Nhat Hanh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d3/nhat-hanh-515_able_training-is-needed-in-order-to-love-prop_2307304.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d3/nhat-hanh-515_able_training-is-needed-in-order-to-love-prop_2307304.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d3/nhat-hanh-515_able_training-is-needed-in-order-to-love-prop_2307304.png) > “Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice DEEP LOOKING directed toward the other person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly. Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand, you cannot love. That is the message of the Buddha.” [Nhat Hanh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nhat-hanh/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love requires deep understanding of the other; without insight you cannot give true happiness. **In simple terms:** Understanding is essential for love. Key Takeaway Practice deep listening to love fully. Themes love understanding empathy mindfulness Mood compassionate reflective Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - counseling sessions - marriage counseling - friendship building - team leadership Key Concepts Buddhist philosophy psychology relationship dynamics Questions to Reflect On - How can you deepen your listening to others? - What barriers prevent true understanding? 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