--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: So if we love someone, we should train in…" description: "\"So if we love someone, we should train in being able to listen. By listening with calm and understanding, we can ease the suffering of another person. ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/52b/nhat-hanh-515_able_so-if-we-love-someone-we-should-train-in_1639406.png" --- # So if we love someone, we should train in being able to… ![“So if we love someone, we should train in being able to listen. By listening with calm and understanding, we can ease the suffering of another person. [True Love. A Practice for Awakening the Heart.]” quote by Nhat Hanh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/52b/nhat-hanh-515_able_so-if-we-love-someone-we-should-train-in_1639406.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/52b/nhat-hanh-515_able_so-if-we-love-someone-we-should-train-in_1639406.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/52b/nhat-hanh-515_able_so-if-we-love-someone-we-should-train-in_1639406.png) > “So if we love someone, we should train in being able to listen. By listening with calm and understanding, we can ease the suffering of another person. \[True Love. A Practice for Awakening the Heart.\]” [Nhat Hanh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nhat-hanh/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Listening with calm understanding eases another’s suffering and deepens love. **In simple terms:** Listen calmly to relieve others’ pain. Key Takeaway Practice attentive, compassionate listening. Themes love compassion mindfulness communication relationships Mood peaceful empathetic Type spiritual practical When to use this quote - counseling - marriage - parenting - conflict resolution - friendship Key Concepts Buddhist practice empathic listening emotional intelligence Questions to Reflect On - How can you improve your listening skills? - What barriers prevent true listening? 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