--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I love them both as though I birthed them…" description: "\"“I love them both as though I birthed them both, but also as though I adopted them both.”\" — Natalie Brenner" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d82/natalie-brenner-28797_adopted_i-love-them-both-as-though-i-birthed-the_2752802.jpg" --- # I love them both as though I birthed them both, but also… ![“I love them both as though I birthed them both, but also as though I adopted them both.” quote by Natalie Brenner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d82/natalie-brenner-28797_adopted_i-love-them-both-as-though-i-birthed-the_2752802.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d82/natalie-brenner-28797_adopted_i-love-them-both-as-though-i-birthed-the_2752802.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/d82/natalie-brenner-28797_adopted_i-love-them-both-as-though-i-birthed-the_2752802.jpg) > ““I love them both as though I birthed them both, but also as though I adopted them both.”” [Natalie Brenner](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/natalie-brenner/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker feels deep love for both children, as if they were birthed and also as if they were adopted, expressing both biological and chosen bonds. **In simple terms:** Love as if they were both birthed and adopted. Key Takeaway Embrace both biological and chosen love. Themes parenthood love adoption bonding Mood affectionate reflective Type personal emotional When to use this quote - parenting - family gatherings - adoption discussions Key Concepts family dynamics emotional attachment Questions to Reflect On - How do you honor both types of bonds? - What challenges arise in blended families? 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