--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: [Christians] must become, must be known…" description: "\"“[Christians] must become, must be known as, the people who don't hold grudges, who don't sulk. We must be the people who know how to say \"Sorry,\" and ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4f/n-t-wright-1173_christian-church_christians-must-become-must-be-known-as_515728.jpg" --- # \[Christians\] must become, must be known as, the people who… ![“[Christians] must become, must be known as, the people who don't hold grudges, who don't sulk. We must be the people who know how to say "Sorry," and who know how to respond when other people say it to us. It is remarkable, once more, how difficult this still seems, considering how much time the…” quote by N.T. Wright](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4f/n-t-wright-1173_christian-church_christians-must-become-must-be-known-as_515728.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4f/n-t-wright-1173_christian-church_christians-must-become-must-be-known-as_515728.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f4f/n-t-wright-1173_christian-church_christians-must-become-must-be-known-as_515728.jpg) > ““\[Christians\] must become, must be known as, the people who don't hold grudges, who don't sulk. We must be the people who know how to say "Sorry," and who know how to respond when other people say it to us. It is remarkable, once more, how difficult this still seems, considering how much time the Christian church has had to think about it and how much energy has been spent on expounding the New Testament, where the advice is all so clear. Perhaps it's because we have tried, if at all, to do it as though it were just a matter of obeying an artificial command--and then, finding it difficult, have stopped trying because nobody else seems to be very good at it either. Perhaps it might be different if we reminded ourselves frequently that we are preparing for life in God's new world, and that the death and resurrection of Jesus, which by baptism constitute our own new identity, offer us both the motivation and the energy to try again in a new way.”” [N.T. Wright](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/n-t-wright/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Christians are urged to practice forgiveness and apology, despite cultural difficulty and institutional neglect. **In simple terms:** Forgiveness is essential but hard. Key Takeaway Practice sincere apology and acceptance. 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