--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I understand that you are claiming it is…" description: "\"“I understand that you are claiming it is almost impossible to forgive, but only easier to forget. The truth is that, you can only forgive that which y..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b7f/mwanandeke-kindembo-1107_claiming_i-understand-that-you-are-claiming-it-is_8500.jpg" --- # I understand that you are claiming it is almost impossible… ![“I understand that you are claiming it is almost impossible to forgive, but only easier to forget. The truth is that, you can only forgive that which you have forced your mind to forget. We must forget first, then forgiveness will come by itself.” quote by Mwanandeke Kindembo](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b7f/mwanandeke-kindembo-1107_claiming_i-understand-that-you-are-claiming-it-is_8500.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b7f/mwanandeke-kindembo-1107_claiming_i-understand-that-you-are-claiming-it-is_8500.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b7f/mwanandeke-kindembo-1107_claiming_i-understand-that-you-are-claiming-it-is_8500.jpg) > ““I understand that you are claiming it is almost impossible to forgive, but only easier to forget. The truth is that, you can only forgive that which you have forced your mind to forget. We must forget first, then forgiveness will come by itself.”” [Mwanandeke Kindembo](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mwanandeke-kindembo/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Forgiveness depends on first erasing the memory of the offense; forgetting creates the mental space for genuine pardon. **In simple terms:** Forget first, then forgive. Key Takeaway Letting go of memory enables forgiveness. 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