--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I had difficulty being friends with women…" description: "\"I had difficulty being friends with women who hadn't worked in either the sex or beauty industries. I felt like other women sometimes overvalued beauty..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/38d/molly-crabapple-17140_actuality_i-had-difficulty-being-friends-with-wome_656118.jpg" --- # I had difficulty being friends with women who hadn't… ![“I had difficulty being friends with women who hadn't worked in either the sex or beauty industries. I felt like other women sometimes overvalued beauty and sexuality, when in actuality, they're just parts of a job.” quote by Molly Crabapple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/38d/molly-crabapple-17140_actuality_i-had-difficulty-being-friends-with-wome_656118.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/38d/molly-crabapple-17140_actuality_i-had-difficulty-being-friends-with-wome_656118.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/38d/molly-crabapple-17140_actuality_i-had-difficulty-being-friends-with-wome_656118.jpg) > “I had difficulty being friends with women who hadn't worked in either the sex or beauty industries. I felt like other women sometimes overvalued beauty and sexuality, when in actuality, they're just parts of a job.” [Molly Crabapple](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/molly-crabapple/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. She struggles to relate to women whose work centers on beauty or sexuality, seeing those fields as professional roles rather than personal identity. **In simple terms:** Difficulty connecting with women in beauty/sex jobs. Key Takeaway Recognize professional roles separate from personal worth. Themes identity gender work beauty sexuality Mood reflective thoughtful Type personal social When to use this quote - networking events - career discussions - friendship building Key Concepts feminist critique social perception Questions to Reflect On - How do you differentiate person from profession? - Can you find common values beyond work? 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