--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Maybe friendship can't begin until…" description: "\"“Maybe friendship can't begin until someone chooses you. But... that doesn't mean you don't get to make a choice too. You can't do that...unless you kn..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/74d/miyoshi-tomori-50850_friendship_maybe-friendship-can-t-begin-until-someo_1663808.jpg" --- # Maybe friendship can't begin until someone chooses you… ![“Maybe friendship can't begin until someone chooses you. But... that doesn't mean you don't get to make a choice too. You can't do that...unless you know who they are. And they can't choose you...until they know who you are.” quote by Miyoshi Tomori](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/74d/miyoshi-tomori-50850_friendship_maybe-friendship-can-t-begin-until-someo_1663808.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/74d/miyoshi-tomori-50850_friendship_maybe-friendship-can-t-begin-until-someo_1663808.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/74d/miyoshi-tomori-50850_friendship_maybe-friendship-can-t-begin-until-someo_1663808.jpg) > ““Maybe friendship can't begin until someone chooses you. But... that doesn't mean you don't get to make a choice too. You can't do that...unless you know who they are. And they can't choose you...until they know who you are.”” [Miyoshi Tomori](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/miyoshi-tomori/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Friendship requires mutual recognition and choice; both parties must know each other to form a bond. **In simple terms:** Friendship needs mutual choice and understanding. Key Takeaway Cultivate self‑knowledge and openness. Themes friendship choice identity Mood introspective thoughtful Type philosophical relational When to use this quote - team building - dating - networking - mentorship Key Concepts psychology social dynamics Questions to Reflect On - What do you need to know about yourself before choosing friends? - How can you reveal yourself authentically? 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