--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: There's this myth that women are supposed…" description: "\"There's this myth that women are supposed to compete with each other or something, or we're supposed to hate each other, and that's totally not product..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/332/mitski-6905_hate_there-s-this-myth-that-women-are-suppose_1538984.jpg" --- # There's this myth that women are supposed to compete with… ![“There's this myth that women are supposed to compete with each other or something, or we're supposed to hate each other, and that's totally not productive.” quote by Mitski](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/332/mitski-6905_hate_there-s-this-myth-that-women-are-suppose_1538984.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/332/mitski-6905_hate_there-s-this-myth-that-women-are-suppose_1538984.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/332/mitski-6905_hate_there-s-this-myth-that-women-are-suppose_1538984.jpg) > “There's this myth that women are supposed to compete with each other or something, or we're supposed to hate each other, and that's totally not productive.” [Mitski](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitski/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Women are often pitted against each other, which hinders collaboration and progress. **In simple terms:** Competition among women is unproductive. Key Takeaway Foster solidarity, not rivalry. Themes gender dynamics solidarity productivity Mood frustrated hopeful Type motivational reflective When to use this quote - workplace - activism - friendships - community building Key Concepts feminist theory social psychology Questions to Reflect On - How can we encourage supportive networks? - What structures reinforce rivalry? 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