--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I always have strong urges to sabotage…" description: "\"I always have strong urges to sabotage myself. Whenever someone says they like something about my music, I tend to not want to do that anymore. It's no..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/mitski-6905_find_i-always-have-strong-urges-to-sabotage-m_2191490.jpg" --- # I always have strong urges to sabotage myself. Whenever… ![“I always have strong urges to sabotage myself. Whenever someone says they like something about my music, I tend to not want to do that anymore. It's not even that I don't like it anymore: it's that I keep trying to find ways for people to dislike me.” quote by Mitski](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/mitski-6905_find_i-always-have-strong-urges-to-sabotage-m_2191490.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/mitski-6905_find_i-always-have-strong-urges-to-sabotage-m_2191490.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/02c/mitski-6905_find_i-always-have-strong-urges-to-sabotage-m_2191490.jpg) > “I always have strong urges to sabotage myself. Whenever someone says they like something about my music, I tend to not want to do that anymore. It's not even that I don't like it anymore: it's that I keep trying to find ways for people to dislike me.” [Mitski](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mitski/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Self‑sabotage stems from fear of success and desire for validation through others' disappointment. **In simple terms:** Fear of being liked leads to self‑destruction. Key Takeaway Recognize and break the sabotage cycle. Themes self‑esteem psychology creativity fear of success Mood introspective anxious Type psychological motivational When to use this quote - therapy - creative journaling - support groups - mindfulness practice Key Concepts self‑sabotage validation artist anxiety Questions to Reflect On - What triggers your self‑sabotage? - How can you reframe praise? 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