--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We know that we've done and said things…" description: "\"We know that we've done and said things that hurt people. Inflicting pain on others wasn't the goal, but it was one of the outcomes. We wish it weren't..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/028/megan-phelps-roper-6233_goals_we-know-that-we-ve-done-and-said-things_1341839.jpg" --- # We know that we've done and said things that hurt people… ![“We know that we've done and said things that hurt people. Inflicting pain on others wasn't the goal, but it was one of the outcomes. We wish it weren't so, and regret that hurt.” quote by Megan Phelps-Roper](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/028/megan-phelps-roper-6233_goals_we-know-that-we-ve-done-and-said-things_1341839.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/028/megan-phelps-roper-6233_goals_we-know-that-we-ve-done-and-said-things_1341839.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/028/megan-phelps-roper-6233_goals_we-know-that-we-ve-done-and-said-things_1341839.jpg) > “We know that we've done and said things that hurt people. Inflicting pain on others wasn't the goal, but it was one of the outcomes. We wish it weren't so, and regret that hurt.” [Megan Phelps-Roper](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/megan-phelps-roper/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. We caused harm unintentionally; acknowledging pain and feeling regret is essential for healing. **In simple terms:** We hurt others, feel remorse, and seek repair. Key Takeaway Own mistakes and seek forgiveness. Themes ethics empathy accountability Mood reflective somber Type apologetic inspirational When to use this quote - public speaking - conflict resolution Key Concepts reconciliation personal growth Questions to Reflect On - What steps can you take to make amends? - How does acknowledging harm change relationships? 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