--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Well, I think it's possible to love…" description: "\"“Well, I think it's possible to love someone and still be curious about someone else. And I think you should be able to act on that impulse without imp..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/megan-mccafferty-1994_jessica-darling_well-i-think-it-s-possible-to-love-someo_993090.jpg" --- # Well, I think it's possible to love someone and still be… ![“Well, I think it's possible to love someone and still be curious about someone else. And I think you should be able to act on that impulse without impunity. But in our society, where monogamy rules despite all the evidence that it doesn't work, a person is demonized for wanting to break from that…” quote by Megan McCafferty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/megan-mccafferty-1994_jessica-darling_well-i-think-it-s-possible-to-love-someo_993090.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/megan-mccafferty-1994_jessica-darling_well-i-think-it-s-possible-to-love-someo_993090.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/145/megan-mccafferty-1994_jessica-darling_well-i-think-it-s-possible-to-love-someo_993090.jpg) > ““Well, I think it's possible to love someone and still be curious about someone else. And I think you should be able to act on that impulse without impunity. But in our society, where monogamy rules despite all the evidence that it doesn't work, a person is demonized for wanting to break from that traditional model of relationships. I think you can love someone, truly love someone, and still be drawn to someone else. Enough to want to kiss that other person, just to see what it would be like. Or maybe to help confirm that what you've got is better than what else is out there. Because isn't the desire alone a form of betrayal? So what further harm does it do to put those thoughts into action? Ideally, you would be able just to go back to the person you love after you've kissed that other person and discovered it wasn't as interesting as you thought it would be, which I would imagine would be the case most of the time. And in the event that itis unexpectedly amazing, isn't it better to have experienced that moment of bliss rather than imagine what it could have been like?”” [Megan McCafferty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/megan-mccafferty/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Explores the tension between monogamous norms and natural curiosity, arguing that exploring attraction can be a harmless test of commitment. **In simple terms:** You can love one person and still be curious about another without being a traitor. Key Takeaway Consider honest communication before acting on attraction. Themes relationships curiosity monogamy honesty Mood conflicted reflective Type philosophical conversational When to use this quote - marriage counseling - friendship boundaries - personal growth - sexual exploration Key Concepts ethical non‑monogamy attachment theory social norms Questions to Reflect On - What boundaries would protect both partners? - How can openness improve relationship health? 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