--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I shall bring him his tea and work myself…" description: "\"“I shall bring him his tea and work myself to death by the time I am thirty bearing children and scrubbing floors and working in the fields digging tur..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/caf/meg-rosoff-2050_children_i-shall-bring-him-his-tea-and-work-mysel_165332.jpg" --- # I shall bring him his tea and work myself to death by the… ![“I shall bring him his tea and work myself to death by the time I am thirty bearing children and scrubbing floors and working in the fields digging turnips till my hands bleed and my back gives out and everyone urges me to keep on for just one more year, at which point I will die of exhaustion and…” quote by Meg Rosoff](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/caf/meg-rosoff-2050_children_i-shall-bring-him-his-tea-and-work-mysel_165332.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/caf/meg-rosoff-2050_children_i-shall-bring-him-his-tea-and-work-mysel_165332.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/caf/meg-rosoff-2050_children_i-shall-bring-him-his-tea-and-work-mysel_165332.jpg) > ““I shall bring him his tea and work myself to death by the time I am thirty bearing children and scrubbing floors and working in the fields digging turnips till my hands bleed and my back gives out and everyone urges me to keep on for just one more year, at which point I will die of exhaustion and the meagerness of my own life. I will love him and care for him, will never tell him to get his own tea, or sweep the ashes from the hearth or give birth to his own twelfth child himself.”” [Meg Rosoff](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/meg-rosoff/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A lament about relentless self‑sacrifice and gendered expectations that erode personal health and autonomy. **In simple terms:** Endless duty can destroy one’s well‑being. Key Takeaway Recognize limits and demand equitable sharing of labor. Themes gender roles self‑sacrifice exploitation health inequality Mood exhausted resigned hopeful Type cautionary reflective social commentary When to use this quote - marriage - parenthood - domestic work - career - family expectations Key Concepts patriarchy burnout agency labor division Questions to Reflect On - What boundaries can you set to protect yourself? - How can you negotiate shared responsibilities? A Different Perspective It assumes the speaker has no agency to change circumstances. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Children](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/children/) [Death](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/death/) [Time](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/time/) ## Related quotes > [Let me tell you what the Tea Party stands for. 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