--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I've spent so much time feeling ugly and…" description: "\"I've spent so much time feeling ugly and being treated as ugly as a result. But I changed my attitude and said, “I’m beautiful because I love everybody..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3a2/margaret-cho-1136_attitude_i-ve-spent-so-much-time-feeling-ugly-and_3077695.png" --- # I've spent so much time feeling ugly and being treated as… ![“I've spent so much time feeling ugly and being treated as ugly as a result. But I changed my attitude and said, “I’m beautiful because I love everybody as much as I can. I’m beautiful because I have wonderful friends. And I’m beautiful because I say I am. I’ve earned it, and I’m gonna be it.” quote by Margaret Cho](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3a2/margaret-cho-1136_attitude_i-ve-spent-so-much-time-feeling-ugly-and_3077695.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3a2/margaret-cho-1136_attitude_i-ve-spent-so-much-time-feeling-ugly-and_3077695.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3a2/margaret-cho-1136_attitude_i-ve-spent-so-much-time-feeling-ugly-and_3077695.png) > “I've spent so much time feeling ugly and being treated as ugly as a result. But I changed my attitude and said, “I’m beautiful because I love everybody as much as I can. I’m beautiful because I have wonderful friends. And I’m beautiful because I say I am. I’ve earned it, and I’m gonna be it.” [Margaret Cho](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/margaret-cho/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. She reframes self‑worth through love, friendship, and self‑affirmation, overcoming internalized ugliness. **In simple terms:** Self‑worth comes from love and self‑affirmation. Key Takeaway Embrace love, affirm yourself, seek supportive friends. Themes self‑esteem affirmation friendship self‑acceptance Mood hopeful empowering Type inspirational motivational When to use this quote - personal growth - mental health counseling - support groups - daily affirmations Key Concepts psychology positive self‑talk social support Questions to Reflect On - How can you practice daily self‑affirmation? - What supportive relationships can you nurture? 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