--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It is not the actions of others which…" description: "\"It is not the actions of others which trouble us (for those actions are controlled by their governing part), but rather it is our own judgments. Theref..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d6/marcus-aurelius-139_action_it-is-not-the-actions-of-others-which-tr_816960.jpg" --- # It is not the actions of others which trouble us (for… ![“It is not the actions of others which trouble us (for those actions are controlled by their governing part), but rather it is our own judgments. Therefore remove those judgments and resolve to let go of your anger, and it will already be gone. How do you let go? By realizing that such actions are…” quote by Marcus Aurelius](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d6/marcus-aurelius-139_action_it-is-not-the-actions-of-others-which-tr_816960.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d6/marcus-aurelius-139_action_it-is-not-the-actions-of-others-which-tr_816960.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/3d6/marcus-aurelius-139_action_it-is-not-the-actions-of-others-which-tr_816960.jpg) > “It is not the actions of others which trouble us (for those actions are controlled by their governing part), but rather it is our own judgments. Therefore remove those judgments and resolve to let go of your anger, and it will already be gone. How do you let go? By realizing that such actions are not shameful to you.” [Marcus Aurelius](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/marcus-aurelius/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Our distress stems from our judgments, not external actions; releasing judgments frees us from anger. **In simple terms:** Anger comes from how we interpret events. Key Takeaway Practice non‑judgmental awareness to dissolve anger. Themes judgment anger inner peace Mood reflective calm Type philosophical self‑help When to use this quote - conflict resolution - personal relationships - stress management - mindfulness practice Key Concepts Stoicism cognitive reframing Questions to Reflect On - What judgments fuel your anger? - How can you reframe them? 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