--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Soon after my husband and I started…" description: "\"“Soon after my husband and I started living together, he learned to make noise before coming into my writing space. He learned to do this because if he..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg" --- # Soon after my husband and I started living together, he… ![“Soon after my husband and I started living together, he learned to make noise before coming into my writing space. He learned to do this because if he didn’t I would get startled and scream. That would startle him and he would scream. It was ‘Night of the Living Dead’ meets Edvard Munch till we…” quote by Marcia Golub](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg) > ““Soon after my husband and I started living together, he learned to make noise before coming into my writing space. He learned to do this because if he didn’t I would get startled and scream. That would startle him and he would scream. It was ‘Night of the Living Dead’ meets Edvard Munch till we worked things out. When I write, especially when the writing takes off, I fall into a trancelike state in which I dream with my eyes open. This is why I write. It is the opium I crave, this entry into another state of consciousness. I used to think it meant I was a great writer, that it was proof of my 'genius.' I also used to think it meant I was a nut who zapped into hallucination as soon as her husband shut the door – ‘Diary of a Mad Housewife’ with computer. I now realize it merely means I am writing.”” Marcia Golub ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The writer describes how a partner’s noise triggers a trance-like writing state, comparing it to art and horror, and reflects on the myth of genius versus simple immersion. **In simple terms:** External cues can unlock deep creative flow. Key Takeaway Embrace triggers for focus. Themes creativity focus art psychology relationship Mood introspective artistic Type Life:0 Living together:0 Marriage:0 Night of the living dead:0 Writer:1 Writing:1 Eyes Open:0 Edvard Munch:0 Things Write:0 Especially Writing:0 Diary Mad:0 Means Writing:0 Write Opium:0 When to use this quote - personal relationships - artistic inspiration - mental health Key Concepts writing sessions creative blocks personal rituals Questions to Reflect On - What triggers your best work? - Do you confuse intensity with talent? A Different Perspective Relying on external triggers may be unstable. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Life](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/life/) [Living together](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/living-together/) [Marriage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage/) [Night of the living dead](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/night-of-the-living-dead/) [Writer](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/writer/) [Writing](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/writing/) ## Related quotes > [My life always came first. When I got nominated for Diary of a Mad Housewife, I didn't think, 'Aah, now I'll get more money.'…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/carrie-snodgress/my-life-always-came-first-when-i-got-nominated-for-diary-of-a-mad/) [Carrie Snodgress](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/carrie-snodgress/) > [I think the only way you can get something out is to invest some real emotion into it, which means you're already writing about…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/grant-morrison/i-think-the-only-way-you-can-get-something-out-is-to-invest-some-real/) [Grant Morrison](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/grant-morrison/) > [“The word ‘photography’ literally means “writing with light.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mary-e-foster/the-word-photography-literally-means-writing-with-light/) Mary E. Foster > [If a man means his writing seriously, he must mean to write well. But how can he write well until he learns to see…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-ciardi/if-a-man-means-his-writing-seriously-he-must-mean-to-write-well-but/) [John Ciardi](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/john-ciardi/) > [In twenty years I've never had a day when I didn't have to think about someone else's needs. And this means the writing has…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alice-munro/in-twenty-years-i-ve-never-had-a-day-when-i-didn-t-have-to-think/) [Alice Munro](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alice-munro/) > ['Writing' always means 'not writing' to me because I will do anything to put it off. I think this is mainly because writing anything…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/catherine-tate/writing-always-means-not-writing-to-me-because-i-will-do-anything-to/) [Catherine Tate](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/catherine-tate/) > [Just getting something to work usually means writing reams of code fast, like a Stephen King novel, but making it maintainable and high-quality code…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erik-naggum/just-getting-something-to-work-usually-means-writing-reams-of-code/) [Erik Naggum](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erik-naggum/) > [“Loving humans means writing poems & songs novels & plays, slogans, chants & protest signs our critics want to stone us for while we…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alice-walker/loving-humans-means-writing-poems-songs-novels-plays-slogans-chants/) [Alice Walker](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alice-walker/) > [“If you write about the present it is very much more difficult to make things sound convincing. But writing about the past means that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-james/if-you-write-about-the-present-it-is-very-much-more-difficult-to-make/) John James > [“In every bit of honest writing in the world, there is a base theme. Try to understand men, if you understand each other you…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/john-steinbeck/in-every-bit-of-honest-writing-in-the-world-there-is-a-base-theme-try/) [John Steinbeck](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/john-steinbeck/) > [“Finally, some of the genes identified in certain variants of schizophrenia or bipolar disease actually augment certain abilities. If the most pathological variant of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/siddhartha-mukherjee/finally-some-of-the-genes-identified-in-certain-variants-of/) [Siddhartha Mukherjee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/siddhartha-mukherjee/) > [“Dark Jar Tin Zoo’s face is sallow, his cheeks sunk in, and he looks like Edvard Munch’s “The Scream,” only less colorful.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jarod-kintz/dark-jar-tin-zoo-s-face-is-sallow-his-cheeks-sunk-in-and-he-looks/) [Jarod Kintz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jarod-kintz/) > [“Untreated, a dead person’s face looks horrific, at least by our very narrow cultural expectations. Their droopy, open eyes cloud over in a vacant…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/caitlin-doughty/untreated-a-dead-person-s-face-looks-horrific-at-least-by-our-very/) [Caitlin Doughty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/caitlin-doughty/) > [“My son, Sam, at three and a half, had these keys to a set of plastic handcuffs, and one morning he intentionally locked himself…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anne-lamott/my-son-sam-at-three-and-a-half-had-these-keys-to-a-set-of-plastic/) [Anne Lamott](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anne-lamott/) > [My work is based on a tradition quite distinct from the Eckersberg tradition, a Nordic line of development that had never been clearly and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/asger-jorn/my-work-is-based-on-a-tradition-quite-distinct-from-the-eckersberg/) [Asger Jorn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/asger-jorn/) ## More Life quotes > [Of all the people who have affected my life and influenced the choices I've made, none has been more important than my father. I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/teddy-atlas/of-all-the-people-who-have-affected-my-life-and-influenced-the/) [Teddy Atlas](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/teddy-atlas/) > [What sets worlds in motion is the interplay of differences, their attractions and repulsions. Life is plurality, death is uniformity. By suppressing differences and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/octavio-paz/what-sets-worlds-in-motion-is-the-interplay-of-differences-their/) [Octavio Paz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/octavio-paz/) > [Life is full of change. That's how we learn and grow.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/life-is-full-of-change-that-s-how-we-learn-and-grow/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Life works most perfectly when a reciprocal love relationship is in place between man and God.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/beth-moore/life-works-most-perfectly-when-a-reciprocal-love-relationship-is-in/) [Beth Moore](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/beth-moore/) > [I value the experiences that come with life too much to sit by and not put my full effort into them.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jim-miller/i-value-the-experiences-that-come-with-life-too-much-to-sit-by-and/) [Jim Miller](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jim-miller/) > [Entertainment is a sacred pursuit when done well. When done well, it raises the quality of human life.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/michael-chabon/entertainment-is-a-sacred-pursuit-when-done-well-when-done-well-it/) [Michael Chabon](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/michael-chabon/) > [“There's more to life than you can see. Your sight is limited.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tammy-kling/there-s-more-to-life-than-you-can-see-your-sight-is-limited/) [Tammy Kling](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tammy-kling/) > [“I've spent much of my life calling my intuition "something wrong with me.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/deanna-l-lawlis/i-ve-spent-much-of-my-life-calling-my-intuition-something-wrong-with/) Deanna L. Lawlis > [When you do things they're absolutely right at that time for you and it can always teach you something about yourself. You can take…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kym-marsh/when-you-do-things-they-re-absolutely-right-at-that-time-for-you-and/) [Kym Marsh](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kym-marsh/) > [The only people who think the Internet is a calamity are people whose lives have been hurt by it; the only people who insist…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/chuck-klosterman/the-only-people-who-think-the-internet-is-a-calamity-are-people-whose/) [Chuck Klosterman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/chuck-klosterman/) > [The one thing that I keep learning over and over again is that I don't know nothing. I mean, that's my life lesson.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dwayne-johnson/the-one-thing-that-i-keep-learning-over-and-over-again-is-that-i-don/) [Dwayne Johnson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dwayne-johnson/) > [“THIS tale of my sore-troubled life I write,    To thank the God of nature, who conveyed    My soul to me, and with such care…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/this-tale-of-my-sore-troubled-life-i-write-to-thank-the-god-of-nature/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“The future is only an indifferent void no one cares about, but the past is filled with life, and its countenance is irritating, repellent,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/milan-kundera/the-future-is-only-an-indifferent-void-no-one-cares-about-but-the/) [Milan Kundera](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/milan-kundera/) > [Two things revolutionised life: moving to the countryside and falling in love.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/nick-love/two-things-revolutionised-life-moving-to-the-countryside-and-falling/) [Nick Love](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/nick-love/) > [But just remember, life without me would be even more unbearable.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anne-rice/but-just-remember-life-without-me-would-be-even-more-unbearable/) [Anne Rice](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anne-rice/) [Browse all 265,290 Life quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/life/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“Soon after my husband and I started living together, he learned to make noise before coming into my writing space. He learned to do this because if he didn’t I would get startled and scream. That would startle him and he would scream. It was ‘Night of the Living Dead’ meets Edvard Munch till we worked things out. When I write, especially when the writing takes off, I fall into a trancelike state in which I dream with my eyes open. This is why I write. It is the opium I crave, this entry into another state of consciousness. I used to think it meant I was a great writer, that it was proof of my 'genius.' I also used to think it meant I was a nut who zapped into hallucination as soon as her husband shut the door – ‘Diary of a Mad Housewife’ with computer. I now realize it merely means I am writing.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Marcia Golub" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/marcia-golub/soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-living-together-he-learned-to/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Life" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/marcia-golub/soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-living-together-he-learned-to/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e74/marcia-golub-189348_life_soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-livi_2064443.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“Soon after my husband and I started living together, he learned to make noise before coming into my writing…” — Marcia Golub", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Marcia Golub", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/marcia-golub/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“Soon after my husband and I...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/marcia-golub/soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-living-together-he-learned-to/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/marcia-golub/soon-after-my-husband-and-i-started-living-together-he-learned-to/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```