--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I know it doesn't sound logical but…" description: "\"“I know it doesn't sound logical but that's the way it is ' said papá. 'There are people who try to control the people they love or try to make them fe..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9f2/marcelo-figueras-39192_sad-people_i-know-it-doesn-t-sound-logical-but-that_1318019.jpg" --- # I know it doesn't sound logical but that's the way it is '… ![“I know it doesn't sound logical but that's the way it is ' said papá. 'There are people who try to control the people they love or try to make them feel insecure or inferior or unworthy. They can be very hurtful but they're the sad people. They're afraid of being abandoned they're afraid of not…” quote by Marcelo Figueras](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9f2/marcelo-figueras-39192_sad-people_i-know-it-doesn-t-sound-logical-but-that_1318019.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9f2/marcelo-figueras-39192_sad-people_i-know-it-doesn-t-sound-logical-but-that_1318019.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/9f2/marcelo-figueras-39192_sad-people_i-know-it-doesn-t-sound-logical-but-that_1318019.jpg) > ““I know it doesn't sound logical but that's the way it is ' said papá. 'There are people who try to control the people they love or try to make them feel insecure or inferior or unworthy. They can be very hurtful but they're the sad people. They're afraid of being abandoned they're afraid of not being loved.' pg 116”” [Marcelo Figueras](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/marcelo-figueras/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A father explains that controlling loved ones stems from fear of abandonment and unworthiness, causing hurtful behavior. **In simple terms:** Control comes from fear of being abandoned and feeling unlovable. Key Takeaway Address underlying fears to stop controlling behavior. Themes family dynamics psychology control Mood empathetic insightful Type psychological relational When to use this quote - parent‑child relationships - therapy - self‑reflection Key Concepts fear of abandonment insecurity Questions to Reflect On - What fears drive your need to control others? - How can you foster secure, loving relationships? 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