--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I agree that biphobia is real, but I…" description: "\"I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely worth considering that someone who \"despises\" having sex with her husband - and men in gener..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b1a/mallory-ortberg-7200_agree_i-agree-that-biphobia-is-real-but-i-thin_39696.jpg" --- # I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely… ![“I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely worth considering that someone who "despises" having sex with her husband - and men in general - may not be interested in men sexually.” quote by Mallory Ortberg](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b1a/mallory-ortberg-7200_agree_i-agree-that-biphobia-is-real-but-i-thin_39696.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b1a/mallory-ortberg-7200_agree_i-agree-that-biphobia-is-real-but-i-thin_39696.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/b1a/mallory-ortberg-7200_agree_i-agree-that-biphobia-is-real-but-i-thin_39696.jpg) > “I agree that biphobia is real, but I think it's absolutely worth considering that someone who "despises" having sex with her husband - and men in general - may not be interested in men sexually.” [Mallory Ortberg](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mallory-ortberg/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker acknowledges biphobia's reality while suggesting that personal aversion to sexual activity with a husband or men may reflect a lack of sexual interest rather than homophobia. **In simple terms:** Distinguishes biphobia from personal sexual disinterest. Key Takeaway Sexual aversion can be independent of prejudice. 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