--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: That,\" he said, \"is so not the point of…" description: "\"That,\" he said, \"is so not the point of this conversation.\" — Maggie Stiefvater" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef1/maggie-stiefvater-76_communication_that-he-said-is-so-not-the-point-of-this_33610.png" --- # That," he said, "is so not the point of this conversation. ![“That," he said, "is so not the point of this conversation.” quote by Maggie Stiefvater](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef1/maggie-stiefvater-76_communication_that-he-said-is-so-not-the-point-of-this_33610.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef1/maggie-stiefvater-76_communication_that-he-said-is-so-not-the-point-of-this_33610.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/ef1/maggie-stiefvater-76_communication_that-he-said-is-so-not-the-point-of-this_33610.png) > “That," he said, "is so not the point of this conversation.” [Maggie Stiefvater](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/maggie-stiefvater/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker dismisses a literal interpretation, emphasizing that the discussion’s purpose lies beyond the surface detail mentioned. **In simple terms:** Focus on underlying meaning, not literal wording. Key Takeaway Look past the obvious to grasp intent. 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