--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: There's that layering of selves that we…" description: "\"There's that layering of selves that we can have with someone else across a long relationship. I go to the baths, the Korean spa. I love looking at the..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/93b/maggie-nelson-4294_korean_there-s-that-layering-of-selves-that-we_2825163.jpg" --- # There's that layering of selves that we can have with… ![“There's that layering of selves that we can have with someone else across a long relationship. I go to the baths, the Korean spa. I love looking at the maps of people's bodies. The women have so many mastectomy scars and ectopic pregnancy scars and stretch marks, and all these things are amazing…” quote by Maggie Nelson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/93b/maggie-nelson-4294_korean_there-s-that-layering-of-selves-that-we_2825163.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/93b/maggie-nelson-4294_korean_there-s-that-layering-of-selves-that-we_2825163.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/93b/maggie-nelson-4294_korean_there-s-that-layering-of-selves-that-we_2825163.jpg) > “There's that layering of selves that we can have with someone else across a long relationship. I go to the baths, the Korean spa. I love looking at the maps of people's bodies. The women have so many mastectomy scars and ectopic pregnancy scars and stretch marks, and all these things are amazing and wondrous to me. I guess I find it stranger not to attend to flux than to attend to it. But in a relationship it's also scary - you don't know where you're going to end up when you go through change.” [Maggie Nelson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/maggie-nelson/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Physical scars and body maps reveal intimate histories, yet confronting change in relationships feels frightening. **In simple terms:** Scars tell stories; change is scary. Key Takeaway Embrace vulnerability in relationships. Themes intimacy body change fear Mood introspective poetic Type literary philosophical When to use this quote - Therapy - artistic expression - body‑positive workshops Key Concepts Phenomenology embodiment relationship dynamics Questions to Reflect On - How do physical marks shape identity? - What helps navigate relational change? 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