--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: If this is how it's going to be -you…" description: "\"“If this is how it's going to be -you getting all broody and distracted every time you fall in lust with somebody -well, I haven't the stomach for it. ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e34/loretta-chase-2027_deserve-better_if-this-is-how-it-s-going-to-be-you-gett_1592255.jpg" --- # If this is how it's going to be -you getting all broody… ![“If this is how it's going to be -you getting all broody and distracted every time you fall in lust with somebody -well, I haven't the stomach for it. I won't put up with it, not for a dukedom. Not for three dukedoms. I deserve better than the role of a quietly accepting wife. I'm an interesting…” quote by Loretta Chase](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e34/loretta-chase-2027_deserve-better_if-this-is-how-it-s-going-to-be-you-gett_1592255.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e34/loretta-chase-2027_deserve-better_if-this-is-how-it-s-going-to-be-you-gett_1592255.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e34/loretta-chase-2027_deserve-better_if-this-is-how-it-s-going-to-be-you-gett_1592255.jpg) > ““If this is how it's going to be -you getting all broody and distracted every time you fall in lust with somebody -well, I haven't the stomach for it. I won't put up with it, not for a dukedom. Not for three dukedoms. I deserve better than the role of a quietly accepting wife. I'm an interesting woman. I read. I have opinions. I appreciate poetry. I have a sense of humor." "I know all that. I've always known." "I deserve to be loved, truly loved -mind, body and soul. And in case you haven't noticed, there's a line of men ready to give me all that. Why on earth should I settle for a man who can't give me anything but friendship. Why should I settle for you?”” [Loretta Chase](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/loretta-chase/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. A woman asserts her worth, refusing to settle for a relationship lacking depth, demanding love that fulfills mind, body, and soul. **In simple terms:** Demand full, authentic love. Key Takeaway Know your value and refuse half‑measures. Themes self‑respect relationships identity Mood empowering hopeful Type inspirational reflective When to use this quote - dating - marriage counseling - personal growth Key Concepts feminism personal agency emotional health Questions to Reflect On - What standards do you set for love? - How can you communicate needs without fear? 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