--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: If Asher was still here, would I have…" description: "\"“If Asher was still here, would I have ever had a chance with you?”... “Wait, don’t answer that. We’re supposed to be moving forward.” “Do you ever giv..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7e/lisa-de-jong-10442_moving-forward_if-asher-was-still-here-would-i-have-eve_2044796.jpg" --- # If Asher was still here, would I have ever had a chance… ![“If Asher was still here, would I have ever had a chance with you?”... “Wait, don’t answer that. We’re supposed to be moving forward.” “Do you ever give much thought to coincidences?” "No," “Like, if my mom hadn’t decided to move to Carrington, I would never have met you. If she hadn’t picked the…” quote by Lisa De Jong](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7e/lisa-de-jong-10442_moving-forward_if-asher-was-still-here-would-i-have-eve_2044796.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7e/lisa-de-jong-10442_moving-forward_if-asher-was-still-here-would-i-have-eve_2044796.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e7e/lisa-de-jong-10442_moving-forward_if-asher-was-still-here-would-i-have-eve_2044796.jpg) > ““If Asher was still here, would I have ever had a chance with you?”... “Wait, don’t answer that. We’re supposed to be moving forward.” “Do you ever give much thought to coincidences?” "No," “Like, if my mom hadn’t decided to move to Carrington, I would never have met you. If she hadn’t picked the house next to yours, we wouldn’t have been so close. Life is mapped out by a series of choices and coincidences … miracles and fate are figments of a dreamer’s imagination. If Drew hadn’t hurt me, I think we’d be together just like we are now, but I appreciate you so much more because of the journey we took to get here. If Asher hadn’t been diagnosed with cancer, he wouldn’t have come to Carrington, and I would never have met him. It was our situations that brought us together so to answer your question, I don’t think it was ever possible for Asher to be my forever. That’s not the map that was laid out for either of us … I honestly believe he was meant to lead me back to you.” She pauses, kissing me softly. “I was always meant to be with you.”” [Lisa De Jong](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lisa-de-jong/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Life is shaped by choices and coincidences, implying fate is a narrative we create. **In simple terms:** Choices and coincidences shape life. Key Takeaway Embrace uncertainty and cherish journeys. Themes fate choice coincidence love Mood hopeful nostalgic Type narrative romantic When to use this quote - romantic relationships - personal growth - decision making Key Concepts determinism narrative identity Questions to Reflect On - Do you see patterns or random events? - How do you create meaning from chance? 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