--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It's been a long time, you see. There's…" description: "\"“It's been a long time, you see. There's been no one for five years. Not since Gavin. I've spent five years murdering what I felt for him, starving my ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5c4/linda-gillard-36778_five-years_it-s-been-a-long-time-you-see-there-s-be_397580.jpg" --- # It's been a long time, you see. There's been no one for… ![“It's been a long time, you see. There's been no one for five years. Not since Gavin. I've spent five years murdering what I felt for him, starving my need for him, purging my memory. But somehow it still feels...too soon. They say time heals, but--' 'They lied,' he said simply.” quote by Linda Gillard](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5c4/linda-gillard-36778_five-years_it-s-been-a-long-time-you-see-there-s-be_397580.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5c4/linda-gillard-36778_five-years_it-s-been-a-long-time-you-see-there-s-be_397580.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/5c4/linda-gillard-36778_five-years_it-s-been-a-long-time-you-see-there-s-be_397580.jpg) > ““It's been a long time, you see. There's been no one for five years. Not since Gavin. I've spent five years murdering what I felt for him, starving my need for him, purging my memory. But somehow it still feels...too soon. They say time heals, but--' 'They lied,' he said simply.”” [Linda Gillard](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/linda-gillard/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker reflects on prolonged emotional suppression after a loss, feeling that time hasn't healed, and confronting the lie that time heals. **In simple terms:** Five years of grief feels too soon; the claim that time heals is false. Key Takeaway Allow yourself to feel grief without expecting quick healing. Themes grief healing memory illusion time Mood sad contemplative hopeful Type emotional therapeutic When to use this quote - relationship loss - personal healing - mental health coping - long‑term mourning Key Concepts attachment theory psychological denial narrative processing Questions to Reflect On - What does “time heals” mean to you? - How can you move forward without false promises? 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