--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We should have given up years ago. It's…" description: "\"“We should have given up years ago. It's so clear now. We should have \"explored other options.\" We should have adopted. We gave up years of our lives a..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/aee/liane-moriarty-1135_adopted_we-should-have-given-up-years-ago-it-s-s_1747343.png" --- # We should have given up years ago. It's so clear now. We… ![“We should have given up years ago. It's so clear now. We should have "explored other options." We should have adopted. We gave up years of our lives and we very nearly destroyed our marriage. Our happy ending could have and should have arrived so much sooner. And even though I adore the fact that…” quote by Liane Moriarty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/aee/liane-moriarty-1135_adopted_we-should-have-given-up-years-ago-it-s-s_1747343.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/aee/liane-moriarty-1135_adopted_we-should-have-given-up-years-ago-it-s-s_1747343.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/aee/liane-moriarty-1135_adopted_we-should-have-given-up-years-ago-it-s-s_1747343.png) > ““We should have given up years ago. It's so clear now. We should have "explored other options." We should have adopted. We gave up years of our lives and we very nearly destroyed our marriage. Our happy ending could have and should have arrived so much sooner. And even though I adore the fact that Francesca has Ben's eyes, I also see now that her biological connection to us is irrelevant.”” [Liane Moriarty](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/liane-moriarty/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Regret over missed opportunities can haunt, but recognizing the irrelevance of blood ties frees us to choose love beyond biology. **In simple terms:** Regret over missed chances, but love transcends blood. Key Takeaway Choose love beyond biology. Themes regret family choices identity love Mood reflective hopeful Type literary inspirational When to use this quote - marriage counseling - family gatherings - personal decision making Key Concepts psychology social expectations relationship dynamics Questions to Reflect On - What would you change if you could redo those years? - How do you define family beyond genetics? 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