--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: It hurts, but I can bear it. Because I am…" description: "\"“It hurts, but I can bear it. Because I am a doll, and a servant. Because I am a pretty thing and a soldier all the same.”\" — Leigh Bardugo" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/285/leigh-bardugo-252_hurts_it-hurts-but-i-can-bear-it-because-i-am_1199985.png" --- # It hurts, but I can bear it. Because I am a doll, and a… ![“It hurts, but I can bear it. Because I am a doll, and a servant. Because I am a pretty thing and a soldier all the same.” quote by Leigh Bardugo](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/285/leigh-bardugo-252_hurts_it-hurts-but-i-can-bear-it-because-i-am_1199985.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/285/leigh-bardugo-252_hurts_it-hurts-but-i-can-bear-it-because-i-am_1199985.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/285/leigh-bardugo-252_hurts_it-hurts-but-i-can-bear-it-because-i-am_1199985.png) > ““It hurts, but I can bear it. Because I am a doll, and a servant. Because I am a pretty thing and a soldier all the same.”” [Leigh Bardugo](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/leigh-bardugo/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker endures pain by embracing multiple identities—doll, servant, pretty thing, soldier—showing resilience through self‑definition and role fluidity. **In simple terms:** Accepting many roles helps bear suffering. Key Takeaway Find strength in your multiple selves. Themes resilience identity role fluidity Mood determined hopeful Type motivational psychological When to use this quote - personal crisis - role conflict - mental endurance Key Concepts self‑definition survival strategy Questions to Reflect On - Which identity gives you the most strength? - How do you balance conflicting self‑images? 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