--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Violent men, and men in authority over…" description: "\"“Violent men, and men in authority over violent men, and the broader public that authorises those men, are not yet shamed by the harm of coercive contr..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f77/lee-lakeman-255926_domestic-abuse_violent-men-and-men-in-authority-over-vi_3058375.jpg" --- # Violent men, and men in authority over violent men, and… ![“Violent men, and men in authority over violent men, and the broader public that authorises those men, are not yet shamed by the harm of coercive control over women ... Maybe we can rest some hope on the growing activity of men of goodwill calling on each other to change. When that group hits a…” quote by Lee Lakeman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f77/lee-lakeman-255926_domestic-abuse_violent-men-and-men-in-authority-over-vi_3058375.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f77/lee-lakeman-255926_domestic-abuse_violent-men-and-men-in-authority-over-vi_3058375.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/f77/lee-lakeman-255926_domestic-abuse_violent-men-and-men-in-authority-over-vi_3058375.jpg) > ““Violent men, and men in authority over violent men, and the broader public that authorises those men, are not yet shamed by the harm of coercive control over women ... Maybe we can rest some hope on the growing activity of men of goodwill calling on each other to change. When that group hits a critical mass, the majority of men will be more likely to want to change.”” [Lee Lakeman](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lee-lakeman/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Collective hope arises when men unite to challenge violent authority and support change. **In simple terms:** Men can change violence by uniting. Key Takeaway Support groups of men for change. Themes violence authority hope collective action gender dynamics Mood hopeful determined Type Domestic abuse:1 Domestic violence:1 Feminism:1 Spousal-abuse:1 Violence against women:1 Majority Men:1 Men Authority:1 Violent Men:1 Harm Coercive:1 Authority Violent:1 When to use this quote - activist meetings - community workshops - policy advocacy - support circles Key Concepts coercive control social movements masculinity studies Questions to Reflect On - What motivates men to join change movements? - How can allies sustain momentum? 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