--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: So why haven’t you called?” I ask her…" description: "\"“So why haven’t you called?” I ask her now. She looks uncomfortable. “I told you,” she says, twirling the end of her braid around her finger. “School s..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c92/lauren-barnholdt-3965_best-friend_so-why-haven-t-you-called-i-ask-her-now_2895101.jpg" --- # So why haven’t you called?” I ask her now. She looks… ![“So why haven’t you called?” I ask her now. She looks uncomfortable. “I told you,” she says, twirling the end of her braid around her finger. “School stuff.” “Bullshit.” She looks at me and opens her mouth, probably to lie again. But then she changes her mind. “I didn’t know what to say.” Her voice…” quote by Lauren Barnholdt](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c92/lauren-barnholdt-3965_best-friend_so-why-haven-t-you-called-i-ask-her-now_2895101.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c92/lauren-barnholdt-3965_best-friend_so-why-haven-t-you-called-i-ask-her-now_2895101.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c92/lauren-barnholdt-3965_best-friend_so-why-haven-t-you-called-i-ask-her-now_2895101.jpg) > ““So why haven’t you called?” I ask her now. She looks uncomfortable. “I told you,” she says, twirling the end of her braid around her finger. “School stuff.” “Bullshit.” She looks at me and opens her mouth, probably to lie again. But then she changes her mind. “I didn’t know what to say.” Her voice catches, so I know she’s telling the truth. “And besides, you didn’t call me, either.” “Because you didn’t call me!” Doesn’t she know that the person who got kicked out of school (me) doesn’t have to call the one who didn’t(her)? She should have called to check up on me, to see how I was doing. She should have come over with lemonades and ice cream, keeping me company, helping me nurse my broken heart. That’s what best friends do. It’s so common it’s cliché.”” [Lauren Barnholdt](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/lauren-barnholdt/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Friendship requires mutual support and communication, not one‑sided effort. **In simple terms:** Friends should check on each other. Key Takeaway Cultivate reciprocal support in friendships. 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