--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Stefan was the one who ... the one she…" description: "\"“Stefan was the one who ... the one she loved. But he'd never understood that love was not singular. He'd never understood that she could be in love wi..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a95/l-j-smith-962_damon_stefan-was-the-one-who-the-one-she-loved_3205078.jpg" --- # Stefan was the one who ... the one she loved. But he'd… ![“Stefan was the one who ... the one she loved. But he'd never understood that love was not singular. He'd never understood that she could be in love with Damon and that it would never change an atom's worth of her love for him. Or that his lack of understanding had been so wrenching and painful…” quote by L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a95/l-j-smith-962_damon_stefan-was-the-one-who-the-one-she-loved_3205078.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a95/l-j-smith-962_damon_stefan-was-the-one-who-the-one-she-loved_3205078.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a95/l-j-smith-962_damon_stefan-was-the-one-who-the-one-she-loved_3205078.jpg) > ““Stefan was the one who ... the one she loved. But he'd never understood that love was not singular. He'd never understood that she could be in love with Damon and that it would never change an atom's worth of her love for him. Or that his lack of understanding had been so wrenching and painful that she had felt torn in two different people at times.”” [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love can be shared without diminishing its intensity; understanding this prevents emotional pain and division. **In simple terms:** Love can be multiple and still whole. Key Takeaway Accept that love can be shared. Themes relationships jealousy self‑awareness Mood conflicted reflective Type narrative emotional When to use this quote - romantic conflict - family dynamics - friendship boundaries Key Concepts polyamory emotional intelligence attachment theory Questions to Reflect On - How do you handle feeling torn between people? - Can love for one diminish love for another? 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Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith-2/) > [I got love for Damon Dash as I did before. I don't know if we can be around each other in that way because…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jay-z/i-got-love-for-damon-dash-as-i-did-before-i-don-t-know-if-we-can-be/) [Jay-Z](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jay-z/) > [It's no where near Valentine's day, but I love Damon/Deefizzy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/it-s-no-where-near-valentine-s-day-but-i-love-damon-deefizzy/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [“Well, will it cheer you up to know that I made cookies?” “I frickin’ love you. He can have Damon. We’ll just grow old…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/alana-sapphire/well-will-it-cheer-you-up-to-know-that-i-made-cookies-i-frickin-love/) [Alana Sapphire](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/alana-sapphire/) > [“There's nothing to read into. I'm just here to collect my beloved Damon and Stefan is just helping me.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/there-s-nothing-to-read-into-i-m-just-here-to-collect-my-beloved/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“And who am i? Do you know who i am?" She smiled up at him, showing him her pointed teeth. "Of course i do.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/and-who-am-i-do-you-know-who-i-am-she-smiled-up-at-him-showing-him/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Damon knew the truth. Stefan was dead all right - but he had been dead for hundreds of years. And it was true that…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/damon-knew-the-truth-stefan-was-dead-all-right-but-he-had-been-dead/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“I'll forget everything. I'll forget the last hundred years I spent missing you. We can start over.-Damon The truth is...I never loved you.-Katherine”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/i-ll-forget-everything-i-ll-forget-the-last-hundred-years-i-spent/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“I love you, Elena. And it's because I love you that I can't be selfish with you. I don't deserve you, but my brother…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/i-love-you-elena-and-it-s-because-i-love-you-that-i-can-t-be-selfish/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Why do people always assume that volume will succeed when logic won’t? - Damon”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/why-do-people-always-assume-that-volume-will-succeed-when-logic-won-t/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Damon spoke without moving. “I’m not like you.” “You’re not as different from us as you want to think,” Matt said. “Look,” he added,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/damon-spoke-without-moving-i-m-not-like-you-you-re-not-as-different/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Then she went to Damon. He was still lying where he had fallen. The ghosts had passed over him, taking no notice of him.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/then-she-went-to-damon-he-was-still-lying-where-he-had-fallen-the/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Damon opened his mouth to snarl, “And now you’re going to judge how much I love Elena?”  when suddenly he stopped, frozen.   He saw…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/damon-opened-his-mouth-to-snarl-and-now-you-re-going-to-judge-how/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“You always were selfish. Your one fault. Not willing to share anything, are you?" Suddenly, Damon's lips curved up in a singularly beautiful smile.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/you-always-were-selfish-your-one-fault-not-willing-to-share-anything/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Still, there was no point in hurting Damon. She loved Damon, too. “I’ll try,” she promised. “We’ll take you home,” he said. “But not…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/still-there-was-no-point-in-hurting-damon-she-loved-damon-too-i-ll/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) ## More by L.J. Smith > [“You're Giving me a...stick" MaryL to a very dangerious vampire”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/you-re-giving-me-a-stick-maryl-to-a-very-dangerious-vampire/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“I'd rather cut my throat," she said. An intriguing thought. But I can do it so much more enjoyably.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/i-d-rather-cut-my-throat-she-said-an-intriguing-thought-but-i-can-do/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“I love you Stefan, never let that go.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/i-love-you-stefan-never-let-that-go/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“That's how I want to go. Taking my own way out and totally pissing everybody off at the end.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/that-s-how-i-want-to-go-taking-my-own-way-out-and-totally-pissing/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Mary-Lynnette had an inexplicable impulse to knock Ash flat and fall down on top of him. She'd never felt that for any boy before.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/mary-lynnette-had-an-inexplicable-impulse-to-knock-ash-flat-and-fall/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“It's all right," Jeanne was yelling. "Yeah, you heard me, it's all right! Delos isn't dangerous. Not to us, anyway. Come on, you, get…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/it-s-all-right-jeanne-was-yelling-yeah-you-heard-me-it-s-all-right/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Katherine," he said. He was still smiling. "Yes." She leaned closer. "Katherine..." "Yes, Damon?" "Go to hell.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/katherine-he-said-he-was-still-smiling-yes-she-leaned-closer/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Still, there was no point in hurting Damon. She loved Damon, too. “I’ll try,” she promised. “We’ll take you home,” he said. “But not…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/still-there-was-no-point-in-hurting-damon-she-loved-damon-too-i-ll/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Wasnt it Startre who said hell was eternity spent in a room with your friends?”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/wasnt-it-startre-who-said-hell-was-eternity-spent-in-a-room-with-your/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“A bright haze seemed to lie over everything, and she had a feeling of unreality, but the scene itself looked almost unbelievably wholesome, like…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/a-bright-haze-seemed-to-lie-over-everything-and-she-had-a-feeling-of/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“No, I'll dream another dream," he said. "I've made up so many things, now I'll just go into one. I'll be part of it.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/no-i-ll-dream-another-dream-he-said-i-ve-made-up-so-many-things-now-i/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“She started walking again. "Are you saying you didn't even want to be with her? Not even just a little?" He stopped. "How could…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/she-started-walking-again-are-you-saying-you-didn-t-even-want-to-be/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Wings of PURIFICATION”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/wings-of-purification/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“This Kitten Has Claws”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/this-kitten-has-claws/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) > [“Now get out of my way, or finish life as a pile of cinders.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/now-get-out-of-my-way-or-finish-life-as-a-pile-of-cinders/) [L.J. Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) [Explore all 310 L.J. Smith quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-smith/) ## More Damon quotes > [I'm a big fan of all the Boston guys that are acting - Matt Damon , Ben Affleck, Mark Wahlberg - they made a…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kenny-wormald/i-m-a-big-fan-of-all-the-boston-guys-that-are-acting-matt-damon-ben/) [Kenny Wormald](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kenny-wormald/) > [“Mr. St.— I mean, Mr. Da— I mean Damon,” she said, quickly standing. She banged her knee against her desk drawer and stars clouded…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jennifer-shirk/mr-st-i-mean-mr-da-i-mean-damon-she-said-quickly-standing-she-banged/) [Jennifer Shirk](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jennifer-shirk/) > [“Still, there was no point in hurting Damon. She loved Damon, too. “I’ll try,” she promised. “We’ll take you home,” he said. “But not…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/still-there-was-no-point-in-hurting-damon-she-loved-damon-too-i-ll/) [L.J. 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You’ll keep your eyes on me, Princess. I want you to remember this. From now on whenever you look into my eyes I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/julia-keaton/jocelyn-you-ll-keep-your-eyes-on-me-princess-i-want-you-to-remember/) [Julia Keaton](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/julia-keaton/) > [Damon: "If you're going to be bad, be bad with a purpose or else you're not worth forgiving.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kevin-williamson/damon-if-you-re-going-to-be-bad-be-bad-with-a-purpose-or-else-you-re/) [Kevin Williamson](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kevin-williamson/) > [“Damon opened his mouth to snarl, “And now you’re going to judge how much I love Elena?”  when suddenly he stopped, frozen.   He saw…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-smith/damon-opened-his-mouth-to-snarl-and-now-you-re-going-to-judge-how/) [L.J. 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