--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I'd learned that the same internal voice…" description: "\"“I'd learned that the same internal voice that told me I wasn't good enough had a habit of judging other women, too. They fed into each other, so it wa..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6bc/kjerstin-gruys-254168_feminism_i-d-learned-that-the-same-internal-voice_361091.jpg" --- # I'd learned that the same internal voice that told me I… ![“I'd learned that the same internal voice that told me I wasn't good enough had a habit of judging other women, too. They fed into each other, so it was best to quell such thoughts before they gathered strength.” quote by Kjerstin Gruys](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6bc/kjerstin-gruys-254168_feminism_i-d-learned-that-the-same-internal-voice_361091.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6bc/kjerstin-gruys-254168_feminism_i-d-learned-that-the-same-internal-voice_361091.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/6bc/kjerstin-gruys-254168_feminism_i-d-learned-that-the-same-internal-voice_361091.jpg) > ““I'd learned that the same internal voice that told me I wasn't good enough had a habit of judging other women, too. They fed into each other, so it was best to quell such thoughts before they gathered strength.”” [Kjerstin Gruys](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kjerstin-gruys/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Self‑criticism fuels judgment of others; interrupting these thoughts prevents mutual harm. **In simple terms:** Negative self‑talk spreads to judging others. Key Takeaway Stop the inner critic early. Themes self‑esteem judgment habit loops women empowerment mental health Mood reflective empathetic Type Feminism:0 Good enough:0 Habits:0 Judgement:0 Judging:0 Self esteem:0 Women:0 Habit Judging:0 Judging Women:0 Gathered Strength:0 Learned Internal:0 Women Fed:0 When to use this quote - personal reflection - therapy sessions - support groups - women’s circles - mindfulness practice Key Concepts cognitive bias negative self‑talk social comparison Questions to Reflect On - What triggers your inner critic? - How can you reframe judgment? 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