--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: But Laila has decided that she will not…" description: "\"But Laila has decided that she will not be crippled by resentment. Mariam wouldn’t want it that way. ‘What’s the sense?’ she would say with a smile bot..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51e/khaled-hosseini-251_children_but-laila-has-decided-that-she-will-not_1111418.jpg" --- # But Laila has decided that she will not be crippled by… ![“But Laila has decided that she will not be crippled by resentment. Mariam wouldn’t want it that way. ‘What’s the sense?’ she would say with a smile both innocent and wise. ‘What good is it, Laila jo?’ And so Laila has resigned herself to moving on. For her own sake, for Tariq’s, for her…” quote by Khaled Hosseini](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51e/khaled-hosseini-251_children_but-laila-has-decided-that-she-will-not_1111418.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51e/khaled-hosseini-251_children_but-laila-has-decided-that-she-will-not_1111418.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/51e/khaled-hosseini-251_children_but-laila-has-decided-that-she-will-not_1111418.jpg) > “But Laila has decided that she will not be crippled by resentment. Mariam wouldn’t want it that way. ‘What’s the sense?’ she would say with a smile both innocent and wise. ‘What good is it, Laila jo?’ And so Laila has resigned herself to moving on. For her own sake, for Tariq’s, for her children’s. And for Mariam, who still visits Laila in her dreams, who is never more than a breath or two below her consciousness. Laila has moved on. Because in the end she knows that’s all she can do. That and hope.” [Khaled Hosseini](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/khaled-hosseini/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Letting go of resentment frees one to move forward; hope and acceptance enable healing **In simple terms:** Release resentment to heal Key Takeaway Choose forgiveness and hope for growth Themes forgiveness hope healing Mood empathetic hopeful Type literary inspirational When to use this quote - family conflict resolution - personal grief processing - mental health counseling - support groups Key Concepts psychology emotional resilience Questions to Reflect On - What resentment do you need to release? - How can hope guide your next steps? 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