--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: What should I tell people if they ask…" description: "\"“What should I tell people if they ask about you? Before I could plead some kind of ignorance, but as your wife…” She shouldn’t have to ask these thing..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/072/kathryn-smith-7789_marriage_what-should-i-tell-people-if-they-ask-ab_1933243.jpg" --- # What should I tell people if they ask about you? Before I… ![“What should I tell people if they ask about you? Before I could plead some kind of ignorance, but as your wife…” She shouldn’t have to ask these things. It shouldn’t be a burden for her to bear. “Tell them I’d rather slit my own throat than associate with them.” Rose looked horrified at the…” quote by Kathryn Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/072/kathryn-smith-7789_marriage_what-should-i-tell-people-if-they-ask-ab_1933243.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/072/kathryn-smith-7789_marriage_what-should-i-tell-people-if-they-ask-ab_1933243.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/072/kathryn-smith-7789_marriage_what-should-i-tell-people-if-they-ask-ab_1933243.jpg) > ““What should I tell people if they ask about you? Before I could plead some kind of ignorance, but as your wife…” She shouldn’t have to ask these things. It shouldn’t be a burden for her to bear. “Tell them I’d rather slit my own throat than associate with them.” Rose looked horrified at the thought-so much so that Grey’s heart pinched. She really was adorable. “Or, you could tell them that you have thoroughly exhausted me in bed and I am unable to draw the strength needed to rouse myself.” That brought a sparkle back into her eyes. “I rather fancy that. It would certainly set tongues wagging, wouldn’t it?”” [Kathryn Smith](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kathryn-smith/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker proposes shocking, hyperbolic statements to deflect intimate questions, using humor and exaggeration to protect privacy. **In simple terms:** Uses outrageous jokes to avoid personal questions. Key Takeaway Employ humor to set boundaries when uncomfortable. Themes privacy humor boundaries Mood lighthearted defensive Type conversational satirical When to use this quote - dating - family gatherings - interviews Key Concepts social interaction communication Questions to Reflect On - How do you balance honesty and privacy? - When is humor appropriate for deflection? A Different Perspective The extreme language may alienate or offend listeners. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Marriage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/marriage/) ## Related quotes > [The correct attitude of the security analyst toward the stock market might well be that of a man toward his wife. 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