--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Sanny,' he said quietly, emphatically…" description: "\"“Sanny,' he said quietly, emphatically, 'besides all the obvious aspects of love — the infatuation, the attraction, the feelings of closeness and belon..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4ad/karen-van-der-zee-252002_bad-time_sanny-he-said-quietly-emphatically-besid_305314.jpg" --- # Sanny,' he said quietly, emphatically, 'besides all the… ![“Sanny,' he said quietly, emphatically, 'besides all the obvious aspects of love — the infatuation, the attraction, the feelings of closeness and belonging — besides all that, Sanny, love is a decision. That's what keeps it going in the long run, through bad time and difficult situation,' Mark said…” quote by Karen van der Zee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4ad/karen-van-der-zee-252002_bad-time_sanny-he-said-quietly-emphatically-besid_305314.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4ad/karen-van-der-zee-252002_bad-time_sanny-he-said-quietly-emphatically-besid_305314.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4ad/karen-van-der-zee-252002_bad-time_sanny-he-said-quietly-emphatically-besid_305314.jpg) > ““Sanny,' he said quietly, emphatically, 'besides all the obvious aspects of love — the infatuation, the attraction, the feelings of closeness and belonging — besides all that, Sanny, love is a decision. That's what keeps it going in the long run, through bad time and difficult situation,' Mark said softly. 'Love isn't just something you feel, some state of mind you have no control over. Love needs nurturing to stay alive, and that is a conscious decision every day, Sanny. It expresses itself in all the little daily things that happen between people.' His hands slid down her back and he drew her closer. 'Love doesn't just stop or fly out the window. It dies from neglect.' He paused. 'Sanny,' he continued softly, 'I love you. My promise to you is that I will not neglect that love.”” [Karen van der Zee](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/karen-van-der-zee/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love is a deliberate, daily choice requiring nurturing; it persists beyond feelings and survives challenges. **In simple terms:** Love is a conscious daily choice. Key Takeaway Choose love each day. Themes love commitment choice Mood thoughtful serious Type advice philosophical When to use this quote - marriage - long‑term partnership - daily interactions Key Concepts intentional nurturing relationship maintenance Questions to Reflect On - What daily actions nurture love? - How do you resist neglect? 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