--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Why do I keep doing this? Making her out…" description: "\"“Why do I keep doing this? Making her out to be more than what she was, grander, omniscient even, lovely and unreal. She could be such a bitch. She cou..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a92/julie-buntin-35601_bitch_why-do-i-keep-doing-this-making-her-out_2946555.jpg" --- # Why do I keep doing this? Making her out to be more than… ![“Why do I keep doing this? Making her out to be more than what she was, grander, omniscient even, lovely and unreal. She could be such a bitch. She could sense what you hated about yourself, and is you pissed her off she'd throw it back in your face, she'd make sure you knew she thought it, too…” quote by Julie Buntin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a92/julie-buntin-35601_bitch_why-do-i-keep-doing-this-making-her-out_2946555.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a92/julie-buntin-35601_bitch_why-do-i-keep-doing-this-making-her-out_2946555.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a92/julie-buntin-35601_bitch_why-do-i-keep-doing-this-making-her-out_2946555.jpg) > ““Why do I keep doing this? Making her out to be more than what she was, grander, omniscient even, lovely and unreal. She could be such a bitch. She could sense what you hated about yourself, and is you pissed her off she'd throw it back in your face, she'd make sure you knew she thought it, too. Sometimes I feel like she is my invention. Like the more I say, the further from the truth of her I get. I'm trying to hold palmfuls of sand, but I squeeze harder, tighten my fists, and the quicker it all escapes.”” [Julie Buntin](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/julie-buntin/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker describes an obsessive, idealized view of a woman that becomes increasingly distorted, revealing how clinging to fantasies prevents seeing reality. **In simple terms:** Obsessive idealization clouds truth. Key Takeaway Release unrealistic expectations. Themes identity perception relationships illusion control Mood conflicted introspective Type literary psychological When to use this quote - romantic relationships - self‑reflection - creative writing - therapy sessions Key Concepts psychology self‑deception projection Questions to Reflect On - What fantasies are you holding onto? - How does letting go change your perception? 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