--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I can be very polite, but I've found that…" description: "\"I can be very polite, but I've found that doesn't always get a result. You have got to bang and thump tables.\" — Joy Baluch" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c1a/joy-baluch-59262_bangs_i-can-be-very-polite-but-i-ve-found-that_741299.png" --- # I can be very polite, but I've found that doesn't always… ![“I can be very polite, but I've found that doesn't always get a result. You have got to bang and thump tables.” quote by Joy Baluch](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c1a/joy-baluch-59262_bangs_i-can-be-very-polite-but-i-ve-found-that_741299.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c1a/joy-baluch-59262_bangs_i-can-be-very-polite-but-i-ve-found-that_741299.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/c1a/joy-baluch-59262_bangs_i-can-be-very-polite-but-i-ve-found-that_741299.png) > “I can be very polite, but I've found that doesn't always get a result. You have got to bang and thump tables.” [Joy Baluch](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/joy-baluch/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Politeness alone often fails; forceful action may be needed to achieve results. **In simple terms:** Politeness may not work; sometimes you must be forceful. Key Takeaway Use assertiveness when politeness stalls. Themes assertiveness politics conflict resolution Mood determined pragmatic Type advice motivational When to use this quote - business negotiations - political advocacy - community organizing Key Concepts social dynamics power communication Questions to Reflect On - When is force justified? - How can you balance politeness and assertiveness? 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