--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I think we think that parenthood is…" description: "\"I think we think that parenthood is confined to the country of mothers, but I think a lot of the men I've spoken to and the men who have read my books ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da2/jennifer-gilmore-20736_attachment_i-think-we-think-that-parenthood-is-conf_858354.jpg" --- # I think we think that parenthood is confined to the… ![“I think we think that parenthood is confined to the country of mothers, but I think a lot of the men I've spoken to and the men who have read my books - I've been surprised by this actually - have a fierce attachment to being parents and to being fathers. And just as we, a lot of women I know…” quote by Jennifer Gilmore](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da2/jennifer-gilmore-20736_attachment_i-think-we-think-that-parenthood-is-conf_858354.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da2/jennifer-gilmore-20736_attachment_i-think-we-think-that-parenthood-is-conf_858354.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/da2/jennifer-gilmore-20736_attachment_i-think-we-think-that-parenthood-is-conf_858354.jpg) > “I think we think that parenthood is confined to the country of mothers, but I think a lot of the men I've spoken to and the men who have read my books - I've been surprised by this actually - have a fierce attachment to being parents and to being fathers. And just as we, a lot of women I know, want this, men too want to pass down what they have to pass down.” [Jennifer Gilmore](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jennifer-gilmore/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Men often feel a deep desire to parent and pass on their legacy, similar to women. **In simple terms:** Men also want to be fathers and leave something behind. Key Takeaway Recognize and support fathers’ aspirations. Themes parenthood legacy gender roles Mood reflective hopeful Type sociological inspirational When to use this quote - family planning - career counseling - parenting workshops - social policy - men’s support groups Key Concepts attachment identity intergenerational transmission Questions to Reflect On - How can societies better support fathers? - What barriers do men face in expressing parental desire? 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