--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I think it's very human, the hope that an…" description: "\"“I think it's very human, the hope that an all-encompassing love will change us into someone else, someone better. That this hope usually turns out to ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a87/jennifer-finney-boylan-23403_hope_i-think-it-s-very-human-the-hope-that-an_1311857.jpg" --- # I think it's very human, the hope that an all-encompassing… ![“I think it's very human, the hope that an all-encompassing love will change us into someone else, someone better. That this hope usually turns out to be false makes it no less human; the world is full of hopes far more unlikely than being transformed by love.” quote by Jennifer Finney Boylan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a87/jennifer-finney-boylan-23403_hope_i-think-it-s-very-human-the-hope-that-an_1311857.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a87/jennifer-finney-boylan-23403_hope_i-think-it-s-very-human-the-hope-that-an_1311857.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a87/jennifer-finney-boylan-23403_hope_i-think-it-s-very-human-the-hope-that-an_1311857.jpg) > ““I think it's very human, the hope that an all-encompassing love will change us into someone else, someone better. That this hope usually turns out to be false makes it no less human; the world is full of hopes far more unlikely than being transformed by love.”” [Jennifer Finney Boylan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jennifer-finney-boylan/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Hope that love can fundamentally transform us is a deeply human desire, yet it often proves unrealistic, reflecting our tendency to cling to improbable aspirations. **In simple terms:** People hope love will change them, but it rarely does. Key Takeaway Recognize love's limits while still valuing it. Themes hope love human nature expectation transformation Mood reflective hopeful melancholic Type philosophical inspirational cautionary When to use this quote - relationship counseling - personal growth - grief processing - creative writing - spiritual practice Key Concepts psychology romantic idealism self‑deception Questions to Reflect On - What realistic ways can love influence personal development? - How do you balance hope with realism? 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