--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Being in love is like being lit on fire…" description: "\"“Being in love is like being lit on fire and having your loved one morph into a marshmallow as she runs to embrace you. But not being in love feels so ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/094/jarod-kintz-2_love_being-in-love-is-like-being-lit-on-fire_1109642.jpg" --- # Being in love is like being lit on fire and having your… ![“Being in love is like being lit on fire and having your loved one morph into a marshmallow as she runs to embrace you. But not being in love feels so much worse, possibly like being a tax collector. Actually, nothing compares to the lowliness of a tax collector.” quote by Jarod Kintz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/094/jarod-kintz-2_love_being-in-love-is-like-being-lit-on-fire_1109642.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/094/jarod-kintz-2_love_being-in-love-is-like-being-lit-on-fire_1109642.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/094/jarod-kintz-2_love_being-in-love-is-like-being-lit-on-fire_1109642.jpg) > ““Being in love is like being lit on fire and having your loved one morph into a marshmallow as she runs to embrace you. But not being in love feels so much worse, possibly like being a tax collector. Actually, nothing compares to the lowliness of a tax collector. ”” [Jarod Kintz](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jarod-kintz/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love feels intense and transformative, while lack of love feels oppressive and burdensome **In simple terms:** Love is fiery; its absence feels like a heavy tax Key Takeaway Appreciate love’s warmth, avoid emotional neglect Themes love pain comparison Mood intense reflective Type philosophical emotional When to use this quote - romantic partnership - personal reflection - mental health awareness Key Concepts emotional intensity relationship dynamics tax metaphor Questions to Reflect On - What makes love feel like fire? - How can we cope with emotional emptiness? 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