--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Not all that Mrs. Bennet, however, with…" description: "\"“Not all that Mrs. Bennet, however, with the assistance of her five daughters, could ask on the subject, was sufficient to draw from her husband any sa..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/jane-austen-39_falling-in-love_not-all-that-mrs-bennet-however-with-the_2274503.jpg" --- # Not all that Mrs. Bennet, however, with the assistance of… ![“Not all that Mrs. Bennet, however, with the assistance of her five daughters, could ask on the subject, was sufficient to draw from her husband any satisfactory description of Mr. Bingley. They attacked him in various ways—with barefaced questions, ingenious suppositions, and distant surmises; but…” quote by Jane Austen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/jane-austen-39_falling-in-love_not-all-that-mrs-bennet-however-with-the_2274503.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/jane-austen-39_falling-in-love_not-all-that-mrs-bennet-however-with-the_2274503.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/53e/jane-austen-39_falling-in-love_not-all-that-mrs-bennet-however-with-the_2274503.jpg) > ““Not all that Mrs. Bennet, however, with the assistance of her five daughters, could ask on the subject, was sufficient to draw from her husband any satisfactory description of Mr. Bingley. They attacked him in various ways—with barefaced questions, ingenious suppositions, and distant surmises; but he eluded the skill of them all, and they were at last obliged to accept the second-hand intelligence of their neighbour, Lady Lucas. Her report was highly favourable. Sir William had been delighted with him. He was quite young, wonderfully handsome, extremely agreeable, and, to crown the whole, he meant to be at the next assembly with a large party. Nothing could be more delightful! To be fond of dancing was a certain step towards falling in love; and very lively hopes of Mr. Bingley's heart were entertained.”” [Jane Austen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jane-austen/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The Bennet sisters try many tactics to learn about Bingley, but rely on second‑hand gossip; they view dancing as a path to romance. **In simple terms:** Sisters seek info, use gossip, see dancing as romance route. Key Takeaway Seek direct insight, don’t rely on rumors. 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