--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: Letting go is not the same as aversion…" description: "\"Letting go is not the same as aversion, struggling to get rid of something. We cannot genuinely let go of what we resist. What we resist and fear secre..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/de1/jack-kornfield-936_accepting_letting-go-is-not-the-same-as-aversion-s_2541241.png" --- # Letting go is not the same as aversion, struggling to get… ![“Letting go is not the same as aversion, struggling to get rid of something. We cannot genuinely let go of what we resist. What we resist and fear secretly follows us even as we push it away. To let go of fear or trauma, we need to acknowledge just how it is. We need to feel it fully and accept…” quote by Jack Kornfield](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/de1/jack-kornfield-936_accepting_letting-go-is-not-the-same-as-aversion-s_2541241.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/de1/jack-kornfield-936_accepting_letting-go-is-not-the-same-as-aversion-s_2541241.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/de1/jack-kornfield-936_accepting_letting-go-is-not-the-same-as-aversion-s_2541241.png) > “Letting go is not the same as aversion, struggling to get rid of something. We cannot genuinely let go of what we resist. What we resist and fear secretly follows us even as we push it away. To let go of fear or trauma, we need to acknowledge just how it is. We need to feel it fully and accept that it is so. It is as it is. Letting go begins with letting be.” [Jack Kornfield](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jack-kornfield/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. True release comes from fully feeling and accepting what we fear, not from trying to push it away. **In simple terms:** Accept fear to release it. Key Takeaway Feel and accept fear. Themes acceptance mindfulness healing Mood reflective calm Type advice spiritual When to use this quote - therapy - personal growth - trauma recovery - meditation - self‑compassion Key Concepts psychology emotional intelligence Questions to Reflect On - What fear are you avoiding? - How can you sit with discomfort? 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