--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: We shouldn't be here at all, if we'd…" description: "\"“We shouldn't be here at all, if we'd known more about it before we started. But I suppose it's often that way. The brave things in the old tales and s..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a7c/j-r-r-tolkien-204_coming-home_we-shouldn-t-be-here-at-all-if-we-d-know_1819214.jpg" --- # We shouldn't be here at all, if we'd known more about it… ![“We shouldn't be here at all, if we'd known more about it before we started. But I suppose it's often that way. The brave things in the old tales and songs, Mr. Frodo: adventures, as I used to call them. I used to think that they were things the wonderful folk of the stories went out and looked…” quote by J.R.R. Tolkien](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a7c/j-r-r-tolkien-204_coming-home_we-shouldn-t-be-here-at-all-if-we-d-know_1819214.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a7c/j-r-r-tolkien-204_coming-home_we-shouldn-t-be-here-at-all-if-we-d-know_1819214.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/a7c/j-r-r-tolkien-204_coming-home_we-shouldn-t-be-here-at-all-if-we-d-know_1819214.jpg) > ““We shouldn't be here at all, if we'd known more about it before we started. But I suppose it's often that way. The brave things in the old tales and songs, Mr. Frodo: adventures, as I used to call them. I used to think that they were things the wonderful folk of the stories went out and looked for, because they wanted them, because they were exciting and life was a bit dull, a kind of a sport, as you might say. But that's not the way of it with the tales that really mattered, or the ones that stay in the mind. Folk seem to have been just landed in them, usually — their paths were laid that way, as you put it. But I expect they had lots of chances, like us, of turning back, only they didn't. And if they had, we shouldn't know, because they'd have been forgotten. We hear about those as just went on — and not all to a good end, mind you; at least not to what folk inside a story and not outside it call a good end. You know, coming home, and finding things all right, though not quite the same — like old Mr Bilbo. But those aren't always the best tales to hear, though they may be the best tales to get landed in! I wonder what sort of a tale we've fallen into?”” [J.R.R. Tolkien](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/j-r-r-tolkien/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker reflects that real adventure is often unplanned, with choices and chances that shape destiny, unlike the neat, purposeful quests of old stories. **In simple terms:** Adventures are messy and full of unexpected turns. Key Takeaway Embrace uncertainty and make purposeful choices. Themes adventure destiny choice storytelling heroism Mood thoughtful reflective hopeful Type philosophical conversational narrative When to use this quote - starting a new project - making a career change - entering a relationship - facing a moral dilemma Key Concepts free will narrative causality fate existential reflection Questions to Reflect On - Do you see your life as a predetermined tale or a series of choices? - How can you turn an unexpected path into a meaningful story? 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