--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: But I’m desperate for more from her. I’m…" description: "\"“But I’m desperate for more from her. I’m desperate for something more permanent. And I do understand that it’s totally selfish of me to expect her to ..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/00c/j-a-huss-2914_children_but-i-m-desperate-for-more-from-her-i-m_1796197.jpg" --- # But I’m desperate for more from her. I’m desperate for… ![“But I’m desperate for more from her. I’m desperate for something more permanent. And I do understand that it’s totally selfish of me to expect her to give up her dream to make me happy, so that’s something I’d never ask her to do. But it eats away at me. Her lack of permanence. It’s like she’s…” quote by J.A. Huss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/00c/j-a-huss-2914_children_but-i-m-desperate-for-more-from-her-i-m_1796197.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/00c/j-a-huss-2914_children_but-i-m-desperate-for-more-from-her-i-m_1796197.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/00c/j-a-huss-2914_children_but-i-m-desperate-for-more-from-her-i-m_1796197.jpg) > ““But I’m desperate for more from her. I’m desperate for something more permanent. And I do understand that it’s totally selfish of me to expect her to give up her dream to make me happy, so that’s something I’d never ask her to do. But it eats away at me. Her lack of permanence. It’s like she’s fleeting, like she’s a moment. Something that comes and goes. I want marriage, I want kids, I want everything I never had as a child, and I want it desperately. But I want her more. I will wait, that was not a lie. I’ll wait forever if I have to.”” [J.A. Huss](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/j-a-huss/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. The speaker longs for a lasting, traditional relationship while recognizing it may be selfish to demand it from a partner who values freedom. **In simple terms:** Desire for permanence clashes with partner’s fleeting nature. Key Takeaway Accept the tension and reflect on realistic expectations. Themes relationships desire selfishness commitment Mood longing conflict hopeful Type personal relationship When to use this quote - marriage planning - therapy sessions - personal reflection - friendship boundaries Key Concepts attachment theory expectation management Questions to Reflect On - What does “permanent” truly mean to you? - How can you honor both your needs and hers? 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