--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: I consider kissing her right there on the…" description: "\"I consider kissing her right there on the dirty couch, but self-preservation stops me. Once someone hurts you, it’s harder to relax around them, harder..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e79/holly-black-329_couches_i-consider-kissing-her-right-there-on-th_128678.png" --- # I consider kissing her right there on the dirty couch, but… ![“I consider kissing her right there on the dirty couch, but self-preservation stops me. Once someone hurts you, it’s harder to relax around them, harder to think of them as safe to love. But it doesn’t stop you wanting them. Sometimes I actually think it makes the wanting worse” quote by Holly Black](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e79/holly-black-329_couches_i-consider-kissing-her-right-there-on-th_128678.png) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e79/holly-black-329_couches_i-consider-kissing-her-right-there-on-th_128678.png) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/e79/holly-black-329_couches_i-consider-kissing-her-right-there-on-th_128678.png) > “I consider kissing her right there on the dirty couch, but self-preservation stops me. Once someone hurts you, it’s harder to relax around them, harder to think of them as safe to love. But it doesn’t stop you wanting them. Sometimes I actually think it makes the wanting worse” [Holly Black](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/holly-black/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Desire persists despite self-protection; past hurt makes it hard to trust, yet longing intensifies. **In simple terms:** Pain fuels desire, but self-protection blocks love. Key Takeaway Balance trust and self-protection. Themes trust desire trauma Mood conflicted longing Type literary emotional When to use this quote - new romance - healing process Key Concepts psychology relationships Practical Applications - practice safe vulnerability - recognize patterns of avoidance Questions to Reflect On - How does past hurt shape current desire? - What steps can lower self-protective barriers? 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