--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: This kind of thing doesn't seem to bother…" description: "\"“This kind of thing doesn't seem to bother most people. Given the chance, people are surprisingly frank when they talk about themselves. \"I'm honest an..." image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/457/haruki-murakami-21_true-feelings_this-kind-of-thing-doesn-t-seem-to-bothe_1271421.jpg" --- # This kind of thing doesn't seem to bother most people… ![“This kind of thing doesn't seem to bother most people. Given the chance, people are surprisingly frank when they talk about themselves. "I'm honest and open to a ridiculous degree," they'll say, or "I'm thin-skinned and not the type who gets along easily in the world." Or "I am very good at…” quote by Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/457/haruki-murakami-21_true-feelings_this-kind-of-thing-doesn-t-seem-to-bothe_1271421.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/457/haruki-murakami-21_true-feelings_this-kind-of-thing-doesn-t-seem-to-bothe_1271421.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/457/haruki-murakami-21_true-feelings_this-kind-of-thing-doesn-t-seem-to-bothe_1271421.jpg) > ““This kind of thing doesn't seem to bother most people. Given the chance, people are surprisingly frank when they talk about themselves. "I'm honest and open to a ridiculous degree," they'll say, or "I'm thin-skinned and not the type who gets along easily in the world." Or "I am very good at sensing others' true feelings." But any number of times I've seen people who say they're easily hurt hurt other people for no apparent reason. Self-styled honest and open people, without realizing what they're doing, blithely use some self-serving excuse to get what they want. And those "good at sensing others' true feelings" are duped by the most transparent flattery. It's enough to make me ask the question: How well do we really know ourselves?”” [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. People often claim self‑awareness, yet their actions reveal blind spots and self‑deception, questioning true self‑knowledge. **In simple terms:** We think we know ourselves, but often we don’t. Key Takeaway Question your self‑perception. 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