--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: The warmth and the pain came as a pair…" description: "\"“The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he accepted the pain, he wouldn't feel the warmth. It was a kind of trade off.”\" — Haruki Murakami" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg" --- # The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he… ![“The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he accepted the pain, he wouldn't feel the warmth. It was a kind of trade off.” quote by Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg) > ““The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he accepted the pain, he wouldn't feel the warmth. It was a kind of trade off.”” [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Warmth and pain are linked; accepting pain is necessary to feel warmth. **In simple terms:** Pain must be accepted to experience warmth. Key Takeaway Embrace discomfort to access joy. Themes pain warmth dualities Mood reflective hopeful Type philosophical inspirational When to use this quote - grief - love - personal growth - mental health Key Concepts acceptance emotional growth Questions to Reflect On - What pain have you avoided that blocks joy? - Can you find warmth without pain? A Different Perspective Avoiding pain can also lead to emotional numbness. ★ ★ ★ ★ ★ No ratings yet [Pain](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/pain/) ## Related quotes > [“I looked for love, I found pain. I avoided pain, I lost love. I looked for pain, I found love. I accepted pain, I…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/abhijit-naskar/i-looked-for-love-i-found-pain-i-avoided-pain-i-lost-love-i-looked/) [Abhijit Naskar](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/abhijit-naskar/) > [“Don't take my pain away, leave my pain right there, you could even put more pain inside my pain and it wouldn't bother me.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/guillaume-morissette/don-t-take-my-pain-away-leave-my-pain-right-there-you-could-even-put/) [Guillaume Morissette](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/guillaume-morissette/) > [“THERE FOR YOU When it all went down And the pain came through I get it now I was there for you Don’t ask…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/leonard-cohen/there-for-you-when-it-all-went-down-and-the-pain-came-through-i-get/) [Leonard Cohen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/leonard-cohen/) > [“There is the pain that made me cry, and then there is the strength that made me stop crying. So I am glad the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/moffat-machingura/there-is-the-pain-that-made-me-cry-and-then-there-is-the-strength/) [Moffat Machingura](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/moffat-machingura/) > [Ode to Pain . They came, As Many, Legion. Driven. Unstoppable. Fangs dripping, Claws extended, Ripping, Biting, Cutting, Wounds, Endless. I loath them, Yet…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/eric-nickel/ode-to-pain-they-came-as-many-legion-driven-unstoppable-fangs/) [Eric Nickel](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/eric-nickel/) > [I was about 17 or 18 years old, and Chris Rock's 'Bring the Pain' came out, and I was obsessed. You know, it just…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/tom-segura/i-was-about-17-or-18-years-old-and-chris-rock-s-bring-the-pain-came/) [Tom Segura](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/tom-segura/) > [“With pain came insight.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/erica-spindler/with-pain-came-insight/) [Erica Spindler](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/erica-spindler/) > [“before pain came to mean not what was lost but what remained.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/a-a-attanasio/before-pain-came-to-mean-not-what-was-lost-but-what-remained/) [A.A. Attanasio](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/a-a-attanasio/) > [It wasn't awful to be dead. The stillness would almost be a relief. She wouldn't want pain, she wouldn't want to be wounded or…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/janet-fitch/it-wasn-t-awful-to-be-dead-the-stillness-would-almost-be-a-relief-she/) [Janet Fitch](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/janet-fitch/) > [She expected the pain, when it came. But she gasped at its sharpness; it was not like any pain she had felt before. He…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kristin-cashore/she-expected-the-pain-when-it-came-but-she-gasped-at-its-sharpness-it/) [Kristin Cashore](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kristin-cashore/) > [“No matter the pain, I could take it, because it wouldn’t last very long. Not more than an hour, anyway. And Brock seemed keen…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/l-j-shen/no-matter-the-pain-i-could-take-it-because-it-wouldn-t-last-very-long/) [L.J. Shen](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/l-j-shen/) > [ “Then Night came down like the feathery soot of a smoky lamp, and smutted\[9\] first the bedquilt, then the hearth-rug, then the window-seat, and… ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/eleanor-hallowell-abbott/then-night-came-down-like-the-feathery-soot-of-a-smoky-lamp-and/) [Eleanor Hallowell Abbott](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/eleanor-hallowell-abbott/) > [“As the door closed behind them, the painter flung himself down on a sofa, and a look of pain came into his face.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/oscar-wilde/as-the-door-closed-behind-them-the-painter-flung-himself-down-on-a/) [Oscar Wilde](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/oscar-wilde/) > [“The hardest part was acknowledging I might never see you again. Realizing how much you mean to me and how much I'd miss your…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/j-c-reed/the-hardest-part-was-acknowledging-i-might-never-see-you-again/) [J.C. Reed](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/j-c-reed/) > [I did it in pre-season when we had a bounce game, I went in for a slide tackle and my back was in pain,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/aaron-mooy/i-did-it-in-pre-season-when-we-had-a-bounce-game-i-went-in-for-a/) [Aaron Mooy](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/aaron-mooy/) ## More by Haruki Murakami > [I always feel like I'm struggling to become someone else. Like I'm trying to find a new place, grab hold of a new life,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/i-always-feel-like-i-m-struggling-to-become-someone-else-like-i-m/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [If writing novels is like planting a forest, then writing short stories is more like planting a garden.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/if-writing-novels-is-like-planting-a-forest-then-writing-short/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“The sad truth is that what I could recall in five seconds all too soon needed ten, then thirty, thena full minute...”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-sad-truth-is-that-what-i-could-recall-in-five-seconds-all-too/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“Intelligent teenage girls were often instinctively theatrical, purposely eccentric, mouthing highly suggestive words to confuse people.”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/intelligent-teenage-girls-were-often-instinctively-theatrical/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [Memory is like fiction; or else it's fiction that's like memory. This really came home to me once I started writing fiction, that memory…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/memory-is-like-fiction-or-else-it-s-fiction-that-s-like-memory-this/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [The most dangerous creature here would have to be me. So maybe I'm just scared of my own shadow.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-most-dangerous-creature-here-would-have-to-be-me-so-maybe-i-m/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [If you listen to the radio for a whole hour there's maybe one decent song. The rest is mass-produced garbage](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/if-you-listen-to-the-radio-for-a-whole-hour-there-s-maybe-one-decent/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“that one of our problems was our inability to recognize and accept our own deformities”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/that-one-of-our-problems-was-our-inability-to-recognize-and-accept/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“When I look back at myself at age twenty, what I remember most is being alone and lonely. I had no girlfriend to warm…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/when-i-look-back-at-myself-at-age-twenty-what-i-remember-most-is/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“There's not a branch of publishing or broadcasting that doesn't depend in some way on advertising. It'd be like an aquarium without water. Why,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/there-s-not-a-branch-of-publishing-or-broadcasting-that-doesn-t/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“One by one, I'll face the tasks before me and complete them as best I can. Focusing on each stride forward, but at the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/one-by-one-i-ll-face-the-tasks-before-me-and-complete-them-as-best-i/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“Eleven o'clock had come and gone. I had to find a way to bring this conversation to a successful conclusion and get out of…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/eleven-o-clock-had-come-and-gone-i-had-to-find-a-way-to-bring-this/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“Some people get a kick out of reading railway timetables and that's all they do all day. Some people make huge model boats out…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/some-people-get-a-kick-out-of-reading-railway-timetables-and-that-s/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“When the time comes, everybody’s got to end up where they belong. Only me, I didn’t have a place to call my own. It’s…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/when-the-time-comes-everybody-s-got-to-end-up-where-they-belong-only/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) > [“You let something out of the bag before yourself knew what it was all about”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/you-let-something-out-of-the-bag-before-yourself-knew-what-it-was-all/) [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) [Explore all 2,928 Haruki Murakami quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) ## More Pain quotes > [Pain is meant to wake us up. People try to hide their pain. But they're wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio.…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jim-morrison/pain-is-meant-to-wake-us-up-people-try-to-hide-their-pain-but-they-re/) [Jim Morrison](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jim-morrison/) > [“If I let myself think of it the pain and anger were still fresh, adrenalin racing down my limbs to pool, hot and itchy,…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kylie-ladd/if-i-let-myself-think-of-it-the-pain-and-anger-were-still-fresh/) [Kylie Ladd](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/kylie-ladd/) > [“I locked the door and turned on the water to fill the tub. I made it so hot that I had to get in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/susan-crandall/i-locked-the-door-and-turned-on-the-water-to-fill-the-tub-i-made-it/) [Susan Crandall](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/susan-crandall/) > [The only person I've ever purposely caused pain here is myself...By simply sharing, caring too much.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/the-only-person-i-ve-ever-purposely-caused-pain-here-is-myself-by/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [I want people to hear my lyrics and my melodies and say, 'That dude's in pain.'](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/ivan-moody/i-want-people-to-hear-my-lyrics-and-my-melodies-and-say-that-dude-s/) [Ivan Moody](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/ivan-moody/) > [A poet is wounded into speech, and he examines these wounds, meticulously, to discover how to heal them. The bad poet harangues at the…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/samuel-r-delany/a-poet-is-wounded-into-speech-and-he-examines-these-wounds/) [Samuel R. Delany](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/samuel-r-delany/) > [It hurts wanting the best for someone you love, even if they feel the best isn't you. That's real love.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/anonymous/it-hurts-wanting-the-best-for-someone-you-love-even-if-they-feel-the/) [Anonymous](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/anonymous/) > [Tryna hide this pain with these pain killers, she said the storms only will last a little while but shit it got me feeling…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/myself/tryna-hide-this-pain-with-these-pain-killers-she-said-the-storms-only/) Myself > [“do not misunderstand person by beauty You really do not know its real or Mask on dirty thoughts”](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/mohammed-zaki-ansari/do-not-misunderstand-person-by-beauty-you-really-do-not-know-its-real/) [Mohammed Zaki Ansari](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/mohammed-zaki-ansari/) > [Many Republicans have always reminded me of professional WWF wrestlers. They come into the ring all pumped up and acting like they're invincible and…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/paul-feig/many-republicans-have-always-reminded-me-of-professional-wwf/) [Paul Feig](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/paul-feig/) > [“What is there, in the mention of Time To Come, that is so quick to wrench at the heart, to inflict a pain in…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/richard-llewellyn/what-is-there-in-the-mention-of-time-to-come-that-is-so-quick-to/) [Richard Llewellyn](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/richard-llewellyn/) > [“Where there is doubt (shanka), there is misery. The moment one begins to doubt the knowledge that, 'I am Chandubhai,' misery arises. Once one…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/dada-bhagwan/where-there-is-doubt-shanka-there-is-misery-the-moment-one-begins-to/) [Dada Bhagwan](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/dada-bhagwan/) > [Stop trying to give me hope ... I have no room left for it.](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/jenn-f/stop-trying-to-give-me-hope-i-have-no-room-left-for-it/) [Jenn F](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/jenn-f/) > [There's only so much for a man to take...](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/kirsten-gilchrist/there-s-only-so-much-for-a-man-to-take/) Kirsten Gilchrist > [Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Even as the stone of the fruit must break, that its heart…](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/khalil-gibran/your-pain-is-the-breaking-of-the-shell-that-encloses-your/) [Khalil Gibran](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/khalil-gibran/) [Browse all 17,919 Pain quotes ](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/about/pain/) ```json { "@context": "https://schema.org", "@graph": [ { "@type": "Quotation", "text": "“The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he accepted the pain, he wouldn't feel the warmth. It was a kind of trade off.”", "creator": { "@type": "Person", "name": "Haruki Murakami" }, "isPartOf": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website" }, "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-and-unless-he-accepted-the/", "about": { "@type": "Thing", "name": "Pain" }, "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-and-unless-he-accepted-the/#quotation", "image": { "@type": "ImageObject", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg", "contentUrl": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/4a9/haruki-murakami-21_pain_the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-a_2183286.jpg", "width": 1080, "height": 1080, "caption": "“The warmth and the pain came as a pair, and unless he accepted the pain, he wouldn't feel the warmth. It was…” — Haruki Murakami", "creditText": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "creator": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } } }, { "@type": "BreadcrumbList", "itemListElement": [ { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 1, "name": "Home", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 2, "name": "Quotes", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 3, "name": "Haruki Murakami", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/" }, { "@type": "ListItem", "position": 4, "name": "“The warmth and the pain came...", "item": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-and-unless-he-accepted-the/" } ], "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/haruki-murakami/the-warmth-and-the-pain-came-as-a-pair-and-unless-he-accepted-the/#breadcrumb" }, { "@type": "WebSite", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#website", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "publisher": { "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization" } }, { "@type": "Organization", "@id": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/#organization", "name": "SMS4Smile Quotes", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/", "logo": { "@type": "ImageObject", "url": "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/wp-content/themes/sq/assets/icons/icon-512.png", "width": 512, "height": 512 } } ] } ```