--- title: "Meaning & Key Takeaway of: He couldn't change my mind about him…" description: "\"“He couldn't change my mind about him, though. I went on loving him just the same, and I could never be interested in anyone else.”\" — Haruki Murakami" image: "https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/91d/haruki-murakami-21_change_he-couldn-t-change-my-mind-about-him-tho_1365722.jpg" --- # He couldn't change my mind about him, though. I went on… ![“He couldn't change my mind about him, though. I went on loving him just the same, and I could never be interested in anyone else.” quote by Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/91d/haruki-murakami-21_change_he-couldn-t-change-my-mind-about-him-tho_1365722.jpg) [Download](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/91d/haruki-murakami-21_change_he-couldn-t-change-my-mind-about-him-tho_1365722.jpg) [Open image](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/i/91d/haruki-murakami-21_change_he-couldn-t-change-my-mind-about-him-tho_1365722.jpg) > ““He couldn't change my mind about him, though. I went on loving him just the same, and I could never be interested in anyone else.”” [Haruki Murakami](https://sms4smile.com/quotes/author/haruki-murakami/) ## About This Quote This interpretation was drafted with AI assistance. It is one reading of the quote, not the author's own explanation. Love persists despite knowing it cannot change, leaving one uninterested elsewhere. **In simple terms:** Love stays, no new interests. 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